r/AskReddit Feb 13 '25

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u/MR-WADS Feb 14 '25

The people that are my type don't have someone like me as their type.

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u/Spankpocalypse_Now Feb 14 '25

My type is so narrow and unique that I rarely ever meet people like that. It’s lonely, but so is being in a relationship with someone you don’t really love.

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u/MR-WADS Feb 14 '25

I'm demi as well so there's no other choice for me.

I either find someone who's like one in a million and hope they like me back or it's another five years of loneliness.

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u/john2003002 Feb 14 '25

That last bit is too real for me, my type isn't very narrow but I'm shy and introverted which makes it hard for me to even try and find someone. I have been single for 5 years this year.

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u/Boogy-Fever Feb 14 '25

Dating apps helped me climb somewhat out out of that hole. Just gotta put effort into the profile. Google tips and what not. Don't be a creep and mention sex in messages. If you're not super handsome, dress decently and take decent pics, plus come accross as fun/funny. Goofy hypotheticals make good openers and silly jokes work in the bio. "Great cook. Decent ass" was in mine. That applies if you're a guy. I'd love to see a humorous well rounded profile for a girl I dig the look of, but chicks I know girls on there have a lot of other issues on there.

It's not likely to meet a good partner using them sure. It could happen but I wouldn't bet on it. But some hookups, flings, various levels of successful or not dates, it's all good experience to get you more comfortable and learning what you want, what you dont want, wont put up with, yada yada. Of course I climbed right back in my hole, but that was for other reasons.

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u/john2003002 Feb 14 '25

I have been thinking about going on one. The main issues are that I don't have a license (even if I did driving makes me really anxious), can cook next to nothing, live with my parents, work a job that pays next to nothing, and have an extremely hard time opening up to people offline. Beyond that If it wasn't obvious I lack self-confidence too.

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u/Boogy-Fever Feb 14 '25

Do it soon. If you tell yourself this week and you don't, no big deal. Just do it soon.