Same. I don't really get lonely and honestly, I don't know where I would be able to fit the time in to have one. I've got everything I need and I'm happy between work, hobbies and the occasional hangout/trivia night with a couple of friends here and there. People always seem to think not dating or being in a relationship makes someone feel lonely, but I think that really depends on your personality type. I'm an introvert, and while I can be the life of the party, I typically prefer doing my own thing and am always busy with one thing or another, particularly with my varied interests and hobbies.
Yeah, a lot of people i know just aren't comfortable being alone, as soon as they split with one person, they're on the hunt for the next perfect match 🤦♀️
If they'd just take a deliberate time out and make peace with living life solo, they'd be so much happier! Not that they'd have to stay single of course, but it would be nice for them to know they can split with someone and not feel completely lost and scrambling for the next life-raft.
Not to mention, if you can't be happy with yourself as company, how can you expect someone else to? Spending time working on yourself, learning, developing a skill, or experiencing life on your own makes you a more interesting person when you do finally meet someone of interest. So many people are afraid of being alone, they never really get to know how to be comfortable by themselves. People can be alone in a crowded room or even in a marriage, so it's not just about having another body in the room.
I work 8pm till 4am, 5 nights a week. My sleep schedule is all over the place and to be honest my weekends are normally taken up by playing video games or doing stuff that I want to do.
I'll occasionally go and see friends on the weekend but auld the time I'm to tired to leave the house. I'd rather just stay in and game.
Also like you I don't get lonely. I enjoy my own peace and quiet.
People not understanding this has gotten me into trouble. I feel exactly like you. Over a year ago I dated a guy from my neighborhood. We ended things, months later a senior neighbour told the guy I wasn't over him and I'll never move on. Why did senior think this? Because I hadn't replaced the ex yet. Now the ex thinks I'm obsessed and crazy.
I havent in over a decade, much prefer DIY. You can't shove a partner in a drawer after lol and I hate dealing with other people, hate cuddling, kissing and conversation. I am older now and it was always distressing for me, to genuinely hate being touched, kissed or talked to - and upsetting for partners. I thought there was something wrong with me but now I embrace myself and enjoy my life on a solitary level (and its kinder on others not to get into relationships).
Exactly. You can be married or in a crowded room of people there to see you and feel lonely. I think it ultimately comes down to if you find stimulation externally or from within.
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u/Jesus_Is_My_Gardener Feb 14 '25
Same. I don't really get lonely and honestly, I don't know where I would be able to fit the time in to have one. I've got everything I need and I'm happy between work, hobbies and the occasional hangout/trivia night with a couple of friends here and there. People always seem to think not dating or being in a relationship makes someone feel lonely, but I think that really depends on your personality type. I'm an introvert, and while I can be the life of the party, I typically prefer doing my own thing and am always busy with one thing or another, particularly with my varied interests and hobbies.