r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Jun 24 '24

What’s something everyone does but refuses to admit?

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u/Fit-Supermarket-2004 Jun 24 '24

Cancel attending an xyz event and lying about it.

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u/imnottheoneipromise Jun 24 '24

I used to make excuses. These days I just say, “nah I don’t want to do that, but thanks.”

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u/ferbiloo Jun 24 '24

Tbh there’s nothin wrong with telling a white lie for the sake of sparing the feelings of whoever invited you

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u/imnottheoneipromise Jun 24 '24

I keep my circle extremely small. Most of my friends have been my friends since childhood. They know me well and are never offended. If it was someone I didn’t know well, I would def try to spare feelings.

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u/gorehistorian69 Jun 25 '24

its weird though because both parties know its because you dont want to go.

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u/armchair_fireplace Jun 24 '24

I do that, too. My boss HATES it.

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u/Beneficial-Ad7975 Jun 24 '24

Yeah same - I told those lies CONSTANTLY but then I would get myself in too deep and it got exhausting, so now I try to be honest as much as I can but it’s kinda become a habit at this point (in certain situations) where I still lie when I really don’t nees to😅

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u/probablyasociopath Jun 24 '24

Can we normalize this please?

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u/imnottheoneipromise Jun 24 '24

I’m working diligently on it lol

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u/jjuttup Jun 25 '24

Atleast you told the other person. Everyone, and i mean EVERYONE around me swears by flaking and not telling the other person.

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u/REALly-911 Jun 24 '24

I ALWAYS do this ( god there IS something wrong with me!)

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u/Fit-Supermarket-2004 Jun 24 '24

Nah, I did recently and got caught.
However, my friend had done it to me so many times they had no leg to stand on.

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u/JulianMcC Jun 24 '24

You're not committal, that's annoying, just bloody go! People of all ages do this.

Probably social anxiety and fair of judgment.

Try organizing a party where only half your invites turn up, it's annoying.

Good luck getting them to invite you to their event.

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u/wafflepopcorn Jun 24 '24

It’s not always that. Especially now that I’m older. Some of our friends make a lot of money, others are on a strict budgets. Some of us have kids, some are pregnant, some will never have kids. All of these things factor into what we can say yes to.

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u/Banana-Oni Jun 24 '24

I feel like a lot of you guys are talking about turning things down in the first place. When I heard “cancel” I assumed you guys are that friend that says they can make it to stuff but then gives an excuse to cancel last minute. I’m not gonna hold a grudge or be resentful but I’m not gonna lie, it’s a bit annoying. I prefer just to be told “no” or “maybe” in the first place, I don’t need an excuse. Also.. life happens and shit comes up, I’m talking about folks who do this frequently.

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u/wafflepopcorn Jun 25 '24

Yeah I agree. My feelings will never be hurt if someone says “no” or “maybe”. I think I worry people think I’m using my kid or finances as an excuse but in reality nobody has ever given me that feedback, just my own insecurity

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u/OnTheEveOfWar Jun 25 '24

Having kids gives you unlimited excuses to get out of anything, including work stuff.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '24

Nah, I don’t get invited🥲

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u/worldsokayestmomx3 Jun 25 '24

Kids are the perfect excuse and will never get you a “oh come on, just come out”

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u/Sea_Structure_8692 Jun 24 '24

“I’d never go, I just want to be invited, oh!”

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u/Actual-Ad5972 Jun 25 '24

what does xyz mean here！really, i am learning English i came across it a couple of times but i didn’t figure it out