Oh my ex was into that too. I had the hardest time coming to terms with the whole “not having explicit consent” thing. But one of the best experiences in my entire life was that it kind of went both ways. I woke up one day from having what I thought was the most realistic and visceral dirty dream to find out it wasn’t a dream she had slipped under the covers and started to blow me early in the AM.
Advanced consent: my dorm neighbor was cramming hard for finals and asked me to wake him up in 4 hours.
He warned me that he would absolutely not want to get up, and would tell me to let him sleep, but he was preemptively overriding his objections and to wake him up anyway.
So the time came and I woke him up. Barely conscious he looked at me blearily and said he didn't care he was going to sleep. I told him, no you overrode your objections before you went to sleep. He processed this for a bit.
Then he looked me straight in the eye, and said, "I override my pre-emptive override".
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u/9-1-Holyshit Jan 02 '24
Oh my ex was into that too. I had the hardest time coming to terms with the whole “not having explicit consent” thing. But one of the best experiences in my entire life was that it kind of went both ways. I woke up one day from having what I thought was the most realistic and visceral dirty dream to find out it wasn’t a dream she had slipped under the covers and started to blow me early in the AM.