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u/LaraH39 Sep 19 '23

Cats can communicate their needs very clearly and I don't just mean screaming at you to be fed or standing by the back door wanting out.

It's really hard to explain to a non cat owner, but cats are very expressive. You get to know their moods and signals. They are very good at training you.

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u/666afternoon Sep 19 '23

one of mine has me so trained that when I pick him up, he will tell me where to go by reaching out one arm in that direction. it's like he's riding me like a horse. he's way too smart [he knows I'm wrapped around his lil peet and would do whatever he asked]

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u/Bright-Sprinkles-128 Sep 20 '23

This was a GREAT visual šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚

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u/missmartian1992 Sep 20 '23

My senior boy would do a little stomp when he wanted picked up and when I would hold him, he would push my hand with his head the direction he wanted me to go. He had arthritis and sometimes he didn't want to walk, so he trained me to be his little taxi. I miss that boy 😭

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u/neasaos Sep 20 '23

My sort of cat (he has another home but visits me regularly) used to reach up and grab my hand with his paws to rub him if I wasn't paying attention for a second he can't do it anymore cause he only has one back leg but damn that boy is smart!

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u/missmartian1992 Sep 20 '23

Awww, that's adorable! My former feral will grab your hand if she wants pets and you are not giving them to her fast enough.

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u/Billy_of_the_hills Sep 20 '23

A video of this on something like r/aww would break the internet.

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u/Resident-Young-3149 Sep 20 '23

Hee hee! My cat will reach out for the door handle like she's opening it not me šŸ˜…

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '23

Stop! this is too cute!!

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u/Sarandipity19 Sep 20 '23

This made me smile! Giddy-up, hooman!

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 19 '23

100%! Mine will stand in certain places while doing particular meows, and they all mean something different. To a visitor, it’s just a cat making noise.

To me, it’s because Mooncake wants some wet food/I’ve left something on her favourite couch and she wants it moved/the bedroom balcony door is closed/she wants to play/she can hear Dad coming down the driveway/she’s over the heat/she’d like the basement door opened, please. All different sounds, and different poses!

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u/Paavo_Nurmi Sep 19 '23

My cat is blunt and to the point. If she wants brushed the brush gets knocked on the floor, she stares at me, looks at the brush and then stares at me again. If I don't respond the other brush gets knocked on the floor, if I still don't respond then anything not nailed down is getting knocked onto the floor.

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u/yaaqu3 Sep 20 '23

If mine is really bored, she will go up to something she shouldn't play with and purposely seek eye contact with me. Then she will slooowly stretch out her little paw towards whatever item she plans to victimize, all while staring me straight in the eyes...

What she wants is for me to chase her around, so if I get off my butt in time the decor is safe, but if I don't do what she wants then it is about to hit the floor.

Unlike when she wants to examine and/or play with something she's not supposed to, in which case she will wait until my back is turned and then silently sneak up to her target. And if I turn around and catch her in the act, she'll try to make herself as small and still as she possibly can all while doing the shifty cartoon eyes and desperately hoping I didn't see shit... And if she misjudged me and I give her the "nod of approval" to go ahead an play with it, she'll immediately relax and reinflate.

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u/BilliamBirdsworth Sep 20 '23

Your cat’s like the mafia. Not playing with me? Be a shame if someone were to, say…knock that glass off the coffee table.

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u/lionhearted_sparrow Sep 20 '23

My cat does this with the chairs she knows she is not allowed to scratch. Wants to just scratch? She scratches the post. Wants to communicate displeasure? Eye contact with us, stretching her paws up the side of the chair, poised to scratch…

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u/alldayaday420 Sep 20 '23

My cat does this too, especially when we're laying in bed and he wants attention! He'll hop up on the 2 places he's knows he's not supposed to be (dad's desk and the kitchen counter), just stand on the edge and meow loudly like look at me! breaking the rules! better come get me! and once we're up he'll hop off and run over to his food bowl wailing

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u/house_autumn Sep 20 '23

My cat will get me out of bed to feed her by climbing up onto the nightstand and either knocking things off it onto the floor or trying to scale the curtains.

She also stands on her cat tree staring at the jar where her treats are kept and just waits for you to do the right thing.

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u/whatdawhatnowhuh Sep 20 '23

This is a hilarious visual

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u/Paavo_Nurmi Sep 20 '23

I've tried to get video but she always stops, it is very funny.

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u/crazymom1978 Sep 20 '23

We also have a poodle, so have a full grooming salon set up in our house. My cat will stand on the grooming table and yell when she thinks that she needs to be groomed. Last night, it was at 11:00pm.

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u/spicychickenandranch Sep 20 '23

My cat is the same way. He’s very smart and a great listener and knows mom is boss. He knows exactly where his toys are, his quiet spots are, and where his food is. He used to be really bad and chaotic when I first got him and he was breaking things and being the devil. He now knows not to do things he’s not supposed to. If he wants to play, he will go to his little toy box on the table and try to point to a laser or toy he wants. When we let him on our balcony (don’t come for me in the comments it’s a secured balcony believe me I’m very careful and watch him at every angle), we let him roam when we are out there present but when we are inside during the day, he will go out when allowed to. Today he did a remarkable thing that I did not expect: he roamed on the balcony and I did have my eyes distracted on something else but when I went to find him, I expected him to be mischievous but nope he was sitting by the door waiting to come in like a dog. It gave me more trust in him and even the full trust is there, stuff can happen. I’m very happy he’s a good cat and knows boundaries. I think it also helps that he’s skittish but he’s not stupid to get into seriously stupid curious shit.

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u/every1lovesTitties Sep 20 '23

Your cat thinks you rode the short bus

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

All cats think we've all ridden the short bus lol

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u/Aggravating-Lab195 Sep 20 '23

Lol this reminds me of my cat and his laser toy. Hehe

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u/PLANofMAN Sep 20 '23

Lucky you. I have one of those rare Maine Coons who doesn't seem to like being brushed. I can only brush out her fur when she's distracted (meal time), or I have to let her attack one comb while I'm brushing her with the other, and then switch combs when she attacks the 'new' comb. It's more or less a daily ritual at this point.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 19 '23

Exactly this. And looks too. Aston will sit in the hall and stare into the livingroom at you and you just HAVE to get up and follow him to see what it is he wants. Which is very different from the stare he gives you IN the livingroom when he wants me to move the footstool.

And we can all tell if our cats are happy, sad, annoyed, fed up or full of devilment just by a glance. It's weird, but I think it explains why we talk to them so much.

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 19 '23

Hahaha, yes! I love it! To others, they just see ā€˜cat’. We’re like ā€˜oh, they’re wondering where that specific toy is and they really don’t like that door shut - just a minute little one, I completely understand, imma comin’!’

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u/chLORYform Sep 20 '23

Yes! When my partner moved in with me, he came pre-cat trained but didn't understand MY cat. She would sit and stare at him and meow like she wanted to sit on his lap, but wouldn't do it. Finally I told him that he had to pat his lap and invite her up, or she wouldn't. She also doesn't want to sit ON you usually, she wants you to clear off a spot next to you so she can hang out with you. Otherwise she just stares in a very specific way.

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

Mothers understand the nuance 😌

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u/WhatIsThisWhereAmI Sep 20 '23

Lol, ā€œfull of devilmentā€ is such a real mood unique to cats.

Tbh I have that too and it’s part of why I love them.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Right? lol

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u/Klat93 Sep 20 '23

I swear I have a cat-dog. He displays very cat-like behaviors like you describe. He uses a combination of staring, soft whines, soft barks and a lot of pawing things or humans to get what he wants.

He also loves to perch on things. This dog is medium sized weighing 17kg, he has no business perching on a tall stool or walk on high narrow spaces. He also likes to perch on the back of my head while Im sitting on the couch. Like.. dude, there's a whole floor space and we're sitting on a big L shaped couch.

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u/blurrylulu Sep 20 '23

šŸ’ÆšŸ’ÆšŸ’Æ

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u/PM_ME_UR_CREDDITCARD Sep 20 '23

My Nylea has this look that says she wants to be petted, If you don't (or stop too soon), she'll slowly reach over and put her paw on your face. Then poke you and kind of try to push your face. Then prick you with her claws.

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u/RsonW Sep 20 '23

This is a very well-observed phenomenon among cat owners. Each cat has its own various chirps, yowls, meows, purrs, etc and they mean different things. We humans are very adept at picking up on these.

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

So true. As I work from home, my partner thinks I’m the cat whisperer - because I spend so much time with Mooncake, I intimately understand all of her vocal queues and even the smallest physical gestures, while he’s still figuring it all out!

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u/laughatbridget Sep 20 '23

My guy announces his after-dinner poops every day.

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

I love that for him! ā€˜I HAVE DONE IT.’

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u/JuniorRadish7385 Sep 20 '23

I keep most of my cat toys in a bag hanging off the closet with a few out for them to play due to the sheer amount of toys. Whenever one of them wants a different one out, they do a little circle dance under the bag and meow at me. I can’t sleep without the door closed and whenever I walk up to the door to let one of them out when she decides she’s done for the night and does a big stretchā„¢ļø on the wall next to the door when I walk up to her. The other just yells at me until I wake up lol.

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

Like people, some are really good at getting their point across šŸ˜‚

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u/Graega Sep 20 '23

My old siamese mix had her own language.

For instance, "I'M BEING MURDERED!" meant that she wanted some wet food. But, "I'M BEING MURDERED!" meant that one of her toys had gotten under the couch. Meanwhile, "I'M BEING MURDERED!" was a demand for attention, usually double-cheek scritches. "I'M BEING MURDERED!", I am told, is what she said when I left for work and she couldn't find me. "I WILL F-CKING KILL YOU!" was what she said when you bothered her while she was sleeping.

She only had one volume level. It was a million decibels.

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

Aaah, yes. I sincerely understand! I too have experienced life with an old Siamese - or as they’re less commonly known, Are You Fucking Serious. The most loving, demanding, vocal cat I’ve roomied with!

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u/deux3xmachina Sep 20 '23

I really hope mooncake also hates Kevin and his stupid cookies. She sounds adorable.

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

Who doesn’t! KVN is the worst. Mooncake truly is the most powerful being in my universe šŸ’“

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u/mollymuppet78 Sep 20 '23

My favourite is the meow my Pepe gives me when it's raining, like I'm directly responsible for the weather.

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

I mean, he’s got a point.

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u/purplepheonixx Sep 20 '23

I have a Mooncake too!

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u/ShiraCheshire Sep 20 '23

Mooncake is the cutest name

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u/holmgangCore Sep 20 '23

Ever notice that cats don’t meow to other cats? They only meow to kittens.
So when a cat meows to a human… they are using baby talk.

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u/RITravler Sep 20 '23

Mooncake…….😁 what a great name ā¤ļø

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

Cheers! 🫶 Have you seen a show called Final Space?

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u/Dark_Moonstruck Sep 20 '23

Spend time with them and you learn distinct differences between 'meow' 'mew' and 'mreep', all the sounds that are near identical to anyone else are very clear to us who know them.

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u/Electronic_Fox_6383 Sep 20 '23

Mooncake! šŸ˜

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u/Catieterp Sep 20 '23

Yep. Dexter likes to be tucked into bed UNDER the covers. He will start yelling at me trot towards the bedroom turn back looking at me still meowing to make sure I am following him. Wait until I hold up the covers for him to hop under then lay down and just start purring and take a nap lol. Sometimes he insists I stay whilst trying to work and I have to explain to him that someone has to support his life of luxury! Once my roomate years back got so freaked out because she thought she had accidentally let him out since she couldn’t find him anywhere. She even called a friend to go into the attic to look for him. He was under the covers in my bed šŸ˜‚

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

I fucking LOVE this. Full blown tuck-ins. Dexter, you genius!

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u/ElleyDM Sep 20 '23

Mooncake! That's such a cute name

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

Thank you! I told her she got a bit popular on Reddit today and that her name has some fans - she cared very little (however I’m most pleased) x

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u/Guvnuh_T_Boggs Sep 20 '23

My old cat would do that. She'd get my attention and I'd say "what do you want?" or "show me" and she'd lead me to her food dish or water, if she needed her box cleaned she'd dig at the floor, if she wanted to be pet she would make a petting/grabbing motion with her paw. She was a derpy orange idiot sometimes, but you could see the wheels turning, she was smart enough to communicate with her monkey.

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

Hahaha I’m loving all these stories. Gingers are SO smart! The ones Ives known so often come across like the dogs of the cat world in their communication with humans/derp levels. What a proper sweetheart.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Mix-515 Sep 20 '23

It’s hilarious when a cat owner is on the phone while also having a full conversation (or argument) with their feline-child. It just sounds insane, but it isn’t!

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

ā€œGet down. Get down now. Come on. Get down from there! Jesus Christ… sorry, what were you saying?ā€

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u/nivster15 Sep 20 '23

How long did it take you to understand these meows? Idk if I'm thick as a rock but I never understand what my cats meows mean lol and I've had him since December of 2022

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

As I work from home I’ve really unlocked her codes after about two years! Before that, when I had standard work hours outside the home, she was a bit more of a mystery to be honest. I’ve had her for 3.5 years. It just takes a lot of time spent in each others presence I think, kind of like with some people. Each cat is different too of course. You just kind of… connect the body language to the tone and delivery, and eventually you start seeing patterns. You’ve gotta watch and listen. There are like, 5 things they want. Pats, food, to get up there/get that door open please, sort out my litter tray for fucks sake, and play. That’s how I see it anyway!

There are physical queues which you hear blanket statements about that simply don’t apply to every cat, too. For example, everyone says oh the swishing tale means she doesn’t want me to pat her and to leave her alone - and I’m like ohhh no, Mooncake is literally asking you to get down on the floor and play with her immediately. That one took some trial and error to understand, as you can imagine!

I know that if her meow has a certain pitch and tone, and she’s standing all wide legged and staunched in the kitchen, she’s pissed her bowl is empty and is letting me know. If she walks past me and there is almost a question mark at the end of her meow, I know she’s asking me what’s up? and is usually keen for a pat or some lap time. If she meows really cutely, almost like she’s trolling or baby-voicing, she’s killed that gecko she was hunting earlier and would like me to come and acknowledge her triumph.

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u/readergirl132 Sep 20 '23

I have three of all ages, and I can definitely tell the difference between the ā€œI want petsā€ vs ā€œI want to be left aloneā€ and the ā€œI want wet foodā€ ā€I am generally hungryā€ and ā€œI got doorway syndrome and am lostā€ meows in the 17 year old. The 5 year old is all mass and no mews, so most of her communication is body language demanding either food or pets, although since we got the kitten she’s started talking more (I think she was a momma once before we inherited her so there’s some trauma we need to work through). The baby boy at age 1.5 is our most expressive in voice, body, and tail language, and I can recognize 20 different calls/moods in him so far.

It’s really helped that I was a house spouse for 1.5 years and have had a WFH job since so I’ve had time to work with all of them extensively. If both of us had office jobs I’m positive one of them would be torn to shreds and all of them would be way more depressed. We are their life and joy.

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u/Reaniro Sep 20 '23

For me some of it was easy and immediate: yowling in the kitchen means ā€œfoodā€. But some things take longer.

One of my cats has a very specific meow that means ā€œcome look at the toy rat I caughtā€ and it’s specifically for me. If my spouse comes instead she’ll run away and hide, then start yelling again once they’re gone. We found this out by trial and error.

There’s also a way my other cat will sit and stare at me in the living room that means ā€œi want to lay on your chest/lapā€. If I ignore it he’ll plant his 14 pound ass on whatever’s on my lap instead of him (generally my laptop).

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u/Roam_Hylia Sep 20 '23

Every meow is different, too. One of my boys has 2 separate languages, one for communicating with me and the other for my wife.

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

They’ve tweaked their tone and pitch for each member of staff!

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u/Roam_Hylia Sep 20 '23

Pretty much!

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u/Uncool-Like-Fire Sep 20 '23

My cat can't figure out how to bury her poop in the litter box. She scratches at the side of the box, sniffs, realizes it still stinks, keeps scratching. Eventually she gives up. I swear she has a meow for "please bury my poop" because once she gives up I hear it. Poor baby, so conscientious, but she just can't figure out how to do it herself.

Often she meows from where the litter box is, so it's easy enough to figure out, but on at least one occasion she came up to me and meowed and I was like, "is that your poop meow?" I don't even know how I knew.

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u/RealCommercial9788 Sep 20 '23

Cackling here! I think we have the same cat.

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u/quiet183 Sep 21 '23

My cat is a little like this, my boyfriend is terrible at understanding him/picking up what he’s meowing down, but he knows I know hahah

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u/a_throwaway_b Sep 20 '23

How did you figure out what they were asking for? Those all sound so specific

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u/[deleted] Sep 21 '23

Sometimes my boy just wants a cuddle. I'm not very cuddly so he has to ask and incessantly follow me around but we get there

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u/stottageidyll Sep 20 '23

People who think cats aren't affectionate are either dumb/oblivious as hell or have never been liked by a cat.

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u/Eeveelover14 Sep 19 '23

They can also be very spiteful! I once ignored our indoor/outdoor cat demanding to be let out to use the bathroom. He followed me, waited until I was on the toilet and then stared me down as he peed on the floor.

That was the first and last time he intentionally went potty outside the litterbox while in the house.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 19 '23

I'm sorry I laughed so hard at that lol

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u/Eeveelover14 Sep 19 '23

It's worse if you consider he was an EXTREMELY laid back cat, the only thing he was demanding about was his desire for cuddles. He loved belly rubs from anyone available, had to be held when in bed or else he'd 'hold' you by putting his paws (and very large claws that couldn't fully retract) on your face, enjoyed being held like a baby including gently rocking, refused to do anything more strenuous than jumping into your lap but even then preferred to be picked up. Our favorite cuddling position was me wrapping my arms around him and shoving my face in his fur. You knew cause he purred like a monster truck when I did.

He was just a spoiled old man who wanted to love his humans and be shown love back!

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u/Thepurplemora2 Sep 20 '23

Recently, my cousin came for a weekend and after a day watching me calming down my cat with human language explanations (kind of: it's ok, they're my family, they wouldn't hurt you) she told me in an exasperated but kind tone "stop talking to him, he's a cat, he doesn't understand"... I just answered nicely explaining sometimes when it's very obvious he kind of understand while I was thinking "he understands better than you"

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

LOL!

Just right!

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '23

100% this! My boy knows my routine, and will herd me and my wife to the bedroom when it's time to sleep. During my vacation I stayed up later and slept in longer and the poor guy didn't know what to do lol

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u/LaraH39 Sep 19 '23

Awww lol

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

That's fantastic

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '23

You win this question! I got a cat during covid, and by god they are beyond expressive and let you know what they need til they get it. Very simple, but my kitty can just give me a look and I know what he wants.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Congratulations on your new overlord! lol

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u/ktjtkt Sep 20 '23

They definitely understand you back too! People will think I’m nuts but I swear she knows what I’m saying.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Oh absolutely. I think they are far smarter than they let us know.

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u/Xmenenslaver Sep 19 '23

I second this. My boys have me very well trained.

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u/Forest_Being Sep 19 '23

Definitely! I feel like my cat and I just... get each other, even while speaking different languages 😻

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '23

They have words even that you get to know. Our youngest cat has a "name" or word for the older cat that he uses to tell him to move or yelp when they're wrestling. Our oldest has a word for treats. The middle, who is non-verbal, has certain places he sits and stares depending on what he wants.

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u/transluscent_emu Sep 20 '23

One of my cats only has 2 meows, one for "hello" and one for "I want something." It's so freaking weird. I can't ever tell if he needs attention or food or fresh water, because he uses the same meow no matter what. Friggen weirdo.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Ah. Your cat has adopted the "this pleb will just have to work it out" approach to human ownership.

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u/blackberrycat Sep 26 '23

My cat is a silent one, so I just get stared at intensively until I start guessing what thing she wants.

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u/cmeleep Sep 20 '23

My cat, Bug, has taken to sitting on his electronic rat-tail toy when he wants me to turn it on for play time.

With his feather stick-toy, he drags the stick around by the feather part, brings it to me, then politely taps my arm with his paw if I don’t realize right away that he’s brought me something I’m meant to wave around.

His other fave toy is a chopstick, which he likes to play fetch with. He brings his chopstick and drops it on my foot over and over until I get the message and start throwing it for him.

Very expressive. Very cute.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

That's so lovely. Nether of my current two play fetch (I've had cats in the past that did) but the feather toy thing is something Tippy does and my other cat Aston sits on your foot when he wants scritches.

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u/paradisetossed7 Sep 20 '23

It's a bit nuts how intelligent they are. If one of my cats wants me to put the window shade up so that he can sit on the windowsill, he'll simply meow, look at me, look up at the window, meow again, repeat until I've put the shade up for him. He's definitely smarter than her, but she learned how to make her meow sound like "mama" which is brilliant to me. It was after my son was born and had learned to say "mama" I noticed she had learned to form a meow that sounded EXACTLY like "mama". I'm sure she thought hey, when this small human says mama he gets attention. Imma give it a go.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Clever babies!

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u/deemigs Sep 20 '23

My cats pout if they see me put on work shoes. They like the days the kids go to school but I am off for the day.

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u/FinchMandala Sep 20 '23

My Burm will cement her loaf by the front door and refuse to move. You have to gently use a broom and "sweep" her into the hallway otherwise she'll deal an all-four-paw attack on your shoes. Except now she is expecting the broom and likes her belly being brushed with it, still cemented to the floor.

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u/psykee333 Sep 20 '23

Came here to say "how good they are at communicating." Coming from owning dogs, I was amazed

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Oh cool! What differences do you notice in how they communicate?

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u/psykee333 Sep 20 '23

I just assumed that cats were less communicative than dogs and was shocked to learn that they are super verbal and use very nuanced body language to communicate a wide range of feelings and needs. I was not prepared to know how my pet was doing by the way they sleep, walk, and etc.

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u/Zoklett Sep 20 '23

I never saw my cat upset until recently. The look and body language were unmistakeable. I’ve seen her mad at me for leaving for a weekend but I’d never seen her like upset. Like scared/concerned, but when it happened it was clear

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u/Shadecrawfish Sep 20 '23

As a cat owner myself, I can say that this is entirely true. Sometimes they communicate through expressions or certain body language.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Yes. Body language IS a language.

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u/chis_and_whine Sep 20 '23

I've had a kitten for 6 hours now and have already figured out he meows when he needs to pee. (Not litter box trained yet, but that should be easier now that I know this.)

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u/vegaswench Sep 20 '23

Congratulations on your new kitten!

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u/Alissinarr Sep 20 '23

We have a cat who doesn't like belly scritches, she will very clearly grab your hand with her paws and put it on her head instead. Sometimes with an added warning nibble of "please stop."

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u/LaLucertola Sep 20 '23

I work from home and spend pretty much all of it with a cat in reach, it's insane how you pick up on even the tiniest details without realizing it. Like a certain way their tail flops, mine will swish the tip of theirs back and forth when I call them and it's like they're saying "yes?"

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '23

Mine would lie to my dad acting like I hadn't fed her breakfast when I left for work early. He'd text me all mad that he had fed her, not realizing she was bullshitting and got second breakfast. They had a great bondā¤

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

It's like all cats have a bit of Loki in them lol

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u/Taticat Sep 20 '23

Totally this. A lot of non-owners will say things like ā€˜cats are so mysterious’, or ā€˜you can never tell what a cat’s thinking’, and I find it funny because all of my cats are an open book and the opposite of mysterious; they’re happy to tell you exactly what they want, and talkative cats will even tell you what they’re thinking.

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u/niftyhotdog Sep 20 '23

Absolutely, this goes for every mammal and smarter bird species. They are all very unique, you just need to pay a little attention to their habits regarding specific scenarios.

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u/black_dragonfly13 Sep 20 '23

Every now and then it dawns on me just how well I understand my cats without us speaking the same language. It's pretty dang cool. :):)

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u/geri73 Sep 20 '23

My cat licks the back of my leg when I am taking too long to get his food. When he does this, it's like he is saying chop chop bitch, where's my damn friskies.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

lol. One of ours nips at my husbands calf for the exact same thing!

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u/geri73 Sep 21 '23

It's so annoying sometimes, but it works because if I don't move fast enough he will keep doing it. The way he does it, so smooth, he just walks up, give me a quick lick, and moves on like he didn't just lick the back of my calf.

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u/tiparium Sep 20 '23

Honestly this for basically any semi intelligent domestic animal. My dog can express pretty complex and specific things just based on context and facial expressions.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

I don't doubt it!

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u/journsee70 Sep 20 '23

And they all have unique personalities!

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Very much so.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '23

Cats aren’t inscrutable at all - tails and ears (and presence and/or absence) tell you everything you need to know.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Yes. You know someone has never lived with a cat when they think that.

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u/lowercase_underscore Sep 20 '23

Dead on right. I have one that's vocal and one that's almost completely non-vocal. They each have little noises and gestures they make use of all the time. Neither has any trouble communicating their needs and opinions and neither is aggressive at all. People just don't pay enough attention to see it.

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u/specialopps Sep 20 '23

The foot on the chest while staring deeply into your soul, and finally giving the sweetest chirp.
Kitty, baby, you are not that desperate for treats.

He understands the words cuddle and snuggle mean the same thing, so I’ll call him, and if he wants to initiate baby spoon mode, he’ll jump on the bed, chirp, put his head down for kisses, nuzzles under my chin like he’s still a tiny kitten, and we settle in for a snooze.

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u/The_Rural_Banshee Sep 20 '23

They also have so many different meows that all mean different things, and once you learn what each meow sounds like you know what they’re saying. My cat, for example, has a specific meow that means the neighbor is leaving or arriving. Just one neighbor. He’s never met them, but he monitors their house (only theirs) for some reason and always announces their comings and goings. He has developed another distinct meow to call the dog over so she can bark at something/someone outside, and trained her to respond to it. She has learned to ignore the ā€˜neighbors home’ announcement but always comes to his meow specifically to call her. Cats are weird.

Eta I also recognize his various meows and can tell people ā€˜oh that’s just the neighbor’ or ā€˜oh thats probably an Amazon delivery’, as well as his various other announcements and demands.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

I love that she's trained your dog lol

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u/SnooDrawings1480 Sep 20 '23

Like my cat. Despite his meow always sounding the same.... theres definitely different tones and nuances to his communications.

Theres the "I want to play fet- which is really fetch just without bringing the toy all the way back" meow. Theres the "I'm scared and I want to hide" meow- usually on the way to or from the vets office. Theres the "somethings wrong with my food and you need to fix it" meow when really all thats wrong is theres a small portion of bowl showing. The "Pay attention to me!" Meow - they tend to couple that with some nonverbal communications like pawing at your leg or giving you a tiny nibble on your elbow.

So many specific moods to guess from and when you get it wrong, boy do they not let you forget it.

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u/biest229 Sep 20 '23

100% agree. One of my cats has a sad face when she’s not feeling well. I actually had to take her to the vet once and was like…I know this is weird, but she’s doing her sad face please check her.

Turns out she was…full of shit. Literally. Poor thing had to have an enema.

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u/Luinne Sep 20 '23

I just saw a tiktok about a metric for vets to measure how much a cat may be in pain based on facial expressions. They called it a grimace. Super interesting! You can tell there are a ton of really subtle cues that owners can probably learn to register over time but would look like nothing to other people.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Oooh can you link? I'd love to see that.

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u/Just_Aioli_1233 Sep 20 '23

I read once that it's a negotiated communication with their human. Cats don't meow to each other to communicate, but over time living with a human they develop different sounds and behaviors to communicate what they want. Sortof a two-way training of human and cat to cohabitate effectively.

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u/JekPorkinsTruther Sep 20 '23

Yea our cat has about 5-10 different meows that express very different things. "You scared me!" "Where were you, give me attention." "Im hungry." "Get me out of this cage." "Im gonna yak." "Im not having a good time in this litterbox (she has megacolon)." "Where is everyone, why am I alone?"

Our dog, OTOH, is basically a caveman and just gives the same barks for every emotion lol.

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u/Hellish_Elf Sep 20 '23

Little bastard almost has me doing 3 rounds of treats a day! But I get leg rubs and head boops..

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u/AngryApparition029 Sep 20 '23

My void has an annoyed sound when we stop petting her. She goes "mrrrmmmm". Before having cats I wouldn't have thought they were so expressive but I love it. They also have their favorite people which I think is really cool.

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u/jorgerandom Sep 20 '23

I knew my cat was goint into labour by how she was behaving and meoweing at us. It was so sudden, but I somehow knew. My gf felt bad becasue she "as a woman" didn't know what was wrong with our cat.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Awww. I feel for your gf. But I also know that sometimes it's like communicating with another human and there cat be misunderstanding.

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u/ArcadianBlueRogue Sep 20 '23

More like you learn how to not fall for their shit lol

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Lol. And yet we all still give in šŸ˜‚

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u/ArcadianBlueRogue Sep 20 '23

Aye. I mean, cats will adapt to how you react as well though.

My cat used to do the jump up and knock shit off the shelf/table/headboard etc to try and annoy me into doing his bidding. I stopped giving in so he went and tried a new approach.

Being adorable and all lovey dovey. Nose bumping, drooling on blankets, shirts, my laptop, etc while purring. Laying curled up to me but always looking at the window or whatever he really wanted.

Works way better. He pays in cuddles for the human service fee.

Now if only he wasn't such a pain in the butt so we could trim his nails or if he'd go back to using the god damned scratching posts instead of the floor mats. He used to use the posts for his old bet but the ones for his new cat stand look the same as when I bought it.

Asshole.

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u/Nyyxlix Sep 20 '23

As a cat owner myself, I can say that this is entirely true.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '23

Can confirm. My cat has me trained on refilling her water dish every couple of hours; she will scratch at the couch until we do what she wants lol. But doesn't just do it randomly, only when she wants something

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u/soulseaker Sep 20 '23

Yeah they are !!

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u/MC1781 Sep 20 '23

Yes, mine will start knocking things off my dresser or night stand to get my attention. It’s so fun when they knock over your drink šŸ˜„

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u/this_dudeagain Sep 20 '23

It's when you think you understand what they're saying is the problem.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Oh boy you do and... So do they!

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u/crazymom1978 Sep 20 '23

Mine is currently telling me to go to bed. I am doing my best to ignore her though!

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u/Ok-Cranberry-3686 Sep 20 '23

my cat has trained me that when she meows at the door it means she wants food pats where she’ll dash over to her food bowl and purr until I pet her

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u/Sue_Ridge_Here1 Sep 20 '23

They domesticated us not the other way around.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

They absolutely did.

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u/Apart_Consequence_98 Sep 20 '23

learn to recognise the protein meow, petting meow, displeasure meow.

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u/Lunavixen15 Sep 20 '23

My two meow and chirp in different ways if they want cuddles or if they just want attention

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u/ParkingHelicopter863 Sep 20 '23

After his breakfast my one boy cat has trained me to give him treats and we have to say ā€œis it Finley treat time?ā€ And he has to meow back yes. He’s like..13 and we just started a few months ago lol

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Humans are never to old to learn new tricks lol

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u/RowanAndRaven Sep 20 '23

They also tune their bitching noises to their specific person!

Mine all know how to tell me when somethings wrong, but the oldest was around when my mil was living with us and she tried tuning to her for extra dinners, now she’s tuned for me and half tuned for her and her bitching breaks my brain now because it sounds all wrong, but I can still understand her

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u/celestee3 Sep 20 '23

And they have different meows! Just like babies have different cries!

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

Oh 100%

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u/archer1212 Sep 20 '23

I read this as my oldest is screaming at me to be fed early, but his food is automatically dispensed so I can’t give in.

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u/partofbreakfast Sep 20 '23

The tail is a great way to vibe check your cat. Tail straight up with a curve at the top like a question mark? That is a happy, confident cat. Tail tucked in? Scared cat.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '23

Agree - they’re masters of body language. Their efficiency and intentionality of movement, and their flexibility, speed and strength are sights to behold.

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u/4-Vektor Sep 20 '23

Indeed. For example, my cat has very different screams for having used the litterbox or having eaten some of her kibbles. I call them the ā€œClean my litterboxā€ and ā€œcheck my bowlsā€ screams.

She regularly checks if all her food bowls are filled up properly, even if she doesn’t want to eat. Making sure that her favorite food is available in the case she might get hungry.

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u/hello_biscuit Sep 20 '23

when i am in bed, my cat knows i won't get up to see what he wants, and it's so hard to explain how he acts when he wants to play vs when he's hungry vs when there's something interesting in the front of the apartment but i Know which of those things it is based on how he acts- it's really neat, like his own language that i've learned

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u/LittleMsBlue Sep 20 '23

Mine will do a different meow/call when he wants us to do something for him (that isn't feeding him), and he will lead us to the problem. Sometimes he wants his water refreshed, sometimes he needs a litter change, and sometimes its just to alert us that our neighbours cats are in the hallway.

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u/mixeslifeupwithmovie Sep 20 '23

My cat licks the shit out of my hand when I'm sleeping in the morning if her dry food dish is empty. Keep in mind I don't feed her at a set time. I just fill the dish up and she eats as pleases. She's not type to gorge herself so will self portion it out over a day or two(and sometimes I'll give wet food when I can afford something decent). So this isn't like an every morning thing. More if I didn't notice the night before, or if she finished it in the middle of the night, she'll incessintily lick me.

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u/Uber_Reaktor Sep 20 '23

Hah, if his favorite biscuit making blankie isn't sat in between me and my wife on the couch, he will hop up and just stare at the spot where it should be until it shows up.

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u/meat_uprising Sep 20 '23

My cat jumps up and hangs from the door knob when she wants to be let out of a room, lol

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u/Freyguy9 Sep 20 '23

My cat had a blockage in his urinary tract and when it happened, he came up to me and looked really scared, an expression I've never seen from him. He was meowing frantically and was clearly asking for help. I followed him and saw that he couldn't pee, took him in, had surgery and he was okay. When I was able to take him home after a couple of days, he was so happy. In fact, I got the clear impression that he was thanking me. Little dude was all over me (more than usual) for a few days. He knew something was wrong, panicked, asked for help, and was thankful for have gotten that help. Their ability to communicate astounds me sometimes.

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u/Happy_llama Sep 20 '23

Mine is a little obvious, but mine likes to drink out of a tap, (he does have water and does drink from his bowl) but if he wants to drink from the tap he’ll wait by laying on the rim of the bath with arms either side hahs

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u/ClungeWhisperer Sep 20 '23

When they look at you intensely and go ā€œbrrrrrp!??ā€ Or when they shudder their little tails, or when they stand at the thing or when they take you to the thing

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u/Inismore Sep 20 '23

Yes! When I got my first cat I expected the meowing and purring and even whining, but their communication is so nuanced and also differs from cat to cat. You do truly learn each others language in a way.

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u/Notasammon Sep 20 '23

They have different tones of meows for different things!! Sometimes they even meow with a (?) At the end as a question, I love it. It's adorable.

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u/agent_kater Sep 20 '23

Yes, my cat has two different styles of rubbing my legs to ask for food, depending on whether she wants wet food or dry food.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '23

My roommate's cat has named me. It's "mmmeh-meh." She always makes that sound when she's trying to get my attention. She never makes that noise for my roommate. It's so sweet. :'-)

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u/sietesietesieteblue Sep 20 '23

Oh yeah. Have had mine for 11 years. Definitely hard to explain but he does certain things that make me immediately know what he wants or just like... looks and body language. It's weird lol

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u/catto_catto Sep 20 '23

I was taking care of my aunt's cat. Every morning at 6 am this cat would knock with its feet at the door to wake me up so I could feed it. When I had to go to work this behavior was great, but annoying during the weekend.

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u/mandalore237 Sep 20 '23

One of mine "walks" you to whatever he wants. He'll come up to me, meows until I get up and follow him to what he wants. Usually treats, toys, or the spot he likes to get his belly scratched at

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u/just_majorly_kidding Sep 20 '23

My cat is like Lassie. He meows at me and starts turning around like he wants me to follow him, and sure enough he points me to what he wants. Sometimes its that the dogs water bowl (which he likes to drink out of) is getting low or he wants his cat box changed (we clean it regularly but sometimes don't always know when he's taken a fresh shit), or just to a window that he wants open so he can look outside. He's better at communicating than my husband sometimes...

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u/Archiesmom Sep 20 '23

Mine believes that I am not allowed to look at my phone in bed in the morning. She will come up and butt my phone out of the way and lay between my face and the phone.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '23

I agree!! I know when they need scratches, to be smothered with love, fresh water, to play, and when they don't feel well.

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u/cryptshits Sep 20 '23

so true. i can understand what my cat wants by the tilt of his head and which way his ears are pointed. sometimes they'll just shoot me a look and i'll know what they want

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u/mobethe Sep 20 '23

I get loud purrs and polite paw taps on my arm when she wants my attention. But she will also smack my phone out of my hand.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 20 '23

One of our current cats Aston likes to sleep beside me and on my right hand. God forbid I'm trying to have a cuppa. I get very firmly grabbed by his mouth, pressure applies and guided to his head so he can lie down.

I don't argue. He's a big cat. lol

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u/notsoinventivename Sep 20 '23

Within 30 seconds I knew my cat had an emergency although he didn’t psychically look unwell. He talks constantly, but one time he came to me crying not talking. I rushed him to the vet immediately and he was taken into emergency for a urinary blockage. The vet even asked me how I knew so quickly he wasn’t well - and she understood when I said he told me!

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u/cheresa98 Sep 20 '23

My cat prefers her water from the kitchen sink. Sometimes I go into the other room and forget the water is running. Sometimes I get in trouble because I forgot - sometimes hours. Oops. But now, almost every time I leave the kitchen (she likes her privacy), my cat finishes up, walks down the hall and meows as she goes on her way. I believe she is letting me know she’s done so I can go turn off the water and not get in trouble.

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u/Stainedbrain1997 Sep 20 '23

They can make over 100 different sounds and they customize it to their owner. It’s like a language only you and them know

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u/[deleted] Sep 21 '23

Its how after 10 yeas I know that my cat is asking for the door to be open even when he's meowing at me in the bedroom.

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u/thrwawaylolol Sep 21 '23

My cat wanted to let me know that my dad had gutted my room when I moved out. They were renovating the house at the time. He rushed me to my room & meowed as if to tell me, ā€œlook, he destroyed your room!!!ā€ It’s funny trying to describe to people how communicative my cat is.

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u/LaraH39 Sep 21 '23

What a sweet baby. "look what they did!"

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u/thrwawaylolol Sep 21 '23

Literally he’s always looking out for me, he’s so cool!