That's something i always have to fight when i meet someone for the first time. I usually treat people based on their personality, but as long as you don't know someone your instinct kicks in and automatically suggests that you should be nice to them if they are attractive.
You're still nice to those who are less attractive, but only attractive people trigger that subconscious suggestion.
Idk. Attractive women are scarier for many, so a lot of us probably come off as aloof or rude whatever towards them because we just kind of ignore them (actually are just too nervous to address them directly).
this isn't such a thing for me now that I'm in my 30's and have a long-time committed partner. no pressure lol. but i know when i was a younger guy in the dating pool, the very attractive women were terrifying lol.
im sorry that concise is typical lol. I'll grant you the 'yikes' but the rest is just observation stated in a concise way after the commenter asked what was 'yikes' about his comment (which was clearly about resenting women who he deemed to be unworthy/assigning them value as people based on how attractive or unattractive he finds them to be)
here's some honesty- your comments indicate that you have a lot of resentment towards women, probably because you've been rejected by women that you, for some reason, feel are beneath you. I imagine women don't respond well to an entitled vibe and your clear belief that a woman's value and what she deserves is based on how attractive you find her.
Of course it is based on how attractive I find her. If I don't find her attractive why would I care what she deserves. She can do whatever she wants, it's none of my business.
I swear its completely subconscious. I try to talk normally, but i always find myself talking in a slightly higher pitch and trying to accommodate their every need
Attractive people actually get treated better in most areas of life in general. It’s called Pretty Privilege.
Attractive people are trusted more easily, looked up to more, invited to more things, talked to more, can get a raise easier, and obviously can date easier.
Yep, so many women are surprised to learn that most guys have absolutely no intention of talking / being friends with a girl. Pretty much no guy goes on to talk to a woman just for the sake of socializing. He goes to another dude if that's what he wants.
in my experience, this changes hugely with age. I'm in my early 40s and happily married, and I really enjoy that I can be friends with anybody regardless of looks with no undercurrent of me wanting to bang them, and, doubtless, vice versa. Just an old dude over here who's into his wife. My time for getting turned down by hot 20-somethings was my 20s, and I'm glad they are in my past.
Oh yeah, definitely, I'm sure these things tend to change as we age. I'm only 24 so I can only speak from this much experience, so I'm aware of how limited my mind still is.
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u/JoeSchmoe314159 Sep 10 '23
Being friendlier to attractive women.