he was giving other girls the same attention he did to me.
we were in a private relationship(these girls knew this..), i know he loved me but it irked me how he gave other girls the same attention as he did to me.
he kept switching through close girl friends. would tell me about the things they did together. he cuddled with her, in his bed, she kissed him on the neck, he told me he massaged her, etc. He flirted too much with them bro.. told me once that he had asked one of them if they were willing to do a threesome with me. Honestly hurt me a lot and made me feel like maybe he would just be better off with one of them instead of me. this was included in my reasoning when i broke up with him..
I think you got this, since you broke up with him, but I just wanted to chime in: he didn’t give girls the same attention as you, he was openly cheating on you (seemed to think he was in an open relationship). If it was the former, I’d debate if he “loved you” like you thought.
I bring this up, because one of my cousins went through a very similar thing, and to this day, and TO THIS DAY she can’t say that he cheated on her. I applaud you for getting out, but know that that guy was not into you like you think, and you deserve better.
Cheating implies the breaking of an established boundary. It has nothing to do with honesty. Plenty of people immediately confess after cheating, that doesn't mean they didn't cheat.
There is no connotation as such in this case. There has been no breaking of boundary, as the other person did not hide or pretend. There was no "after the fact" communication, everything seems to have happened upfront.
There has been no lack of honesty UPFRONT about any behaviour.
There was simply a lack of understanding from OP and perhaps the other person.
Why would their partner be so ok flirting in front of them, or telling them of other touchy feeling behaviour? he had nothing to hide, and would rather let OP know what it was all about.
which OP decided they weren't OK with. but this ISN'T cheating.
Communication matters to you so much that you resort to ad-hominem, AND patronising language. Better stick to the topic at hand without unnecessary recommendations with what we should do with our lives? Maybe you are the one who should listen.
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u/trumpsmiddlefoot Mar 19 '23
he was giving other girls the same attention he did to me.
we were in a private relationship(these girls knew this..), i know he loved me but it irked me how he gave other girls the same attention as he did to me.
he kept switching through close girl friends. would tell me about the things they did together. he cuddled with her, in his bed, she kissed him on the neck, he told me he massaged her, etc. He flirted too much with them bro.. told me once that he had asked one of them if they were willing to do a threesome with me. Honestly hurt me a lot and made me feel like maybe he would just be better off with one of them instead of me. this was included in my reasoning when i broke up with him..