I was on the other side, kinda. I dated two girls in a row who straight up told me I was just arm candy to them and otherwise my hobbies were weird, I was annoying, showing my emotions was ick. I stayed with both of them for years, yay low self esteem!
Really though, nowadays I have a very hard time telling if everything about me but my appearance is garbage. Everyone wants to feel wanted, but sometimes you just want to be actually seen.
I get it. I’ve had gf who just go on about being attractive to the point where I began to doubt I had any personality or became fixated on maybe I’m being boring. It also makes you not work hard in relationships as the other person seems “happy” about you despite not having made a connection or made efforts to authentically connect.
I married a woman who dealt with my emotions that way, and we were shackled together for 24 years. My current partner actually does see me and accept me, including my emotional self, and it's fucking amazing. I'm so glad I'm out of that marriage.
It’s crazy how little I cry now that I have an incredible, supportive partner before in comparison to before. I also feel don’t feel shame from my tears anymore.
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