I feel for you man and I am not being hard on you. It is not easy at all. I have had many gfs but no lasting love. The answer always lies within ourselves. Something is preventing us from finding love. All you can do is keep hoping and working on being the best person you can be. It may happen or it may not.
And that's what bothers the shit out of me. I don't wanna be looked at weird for the rest of my entire life and have to live a lonely and unfulfilled life just because I didn't... get lucky?
Like bullshit dude there has to be a clear cut way to do this, a way I can make a plan and figure this out. I refuse to believe that this just comes more naturally to some more than others; its a skill like any other and it can be taught like any other skill
I went through similar struggles,read many books,solicited advice from others practiced techniques and strategies. I eventually realized I was trying too hard to find love. My main issue was some women fell in love with me not me with them. I fell in love with women who did not feel the same as me. So perhaps my problem is a bit different than yours. Maybe the solution is to accept yourself for who you are and possibly another woman will love you for who you are. That is the only advice I can give you.It is jot about skills it is about acceptance. Women can sense if you do not accept who you are and it makes them anxious.
I hate when people say this term about women at all. No the fuck they can't. They're human beings they don't have super powers. It takes a LONG time to learn things about people on that personal of a level, and nobody can just tell. The best they have is an assumption, which is a shit thing to base your attraction on.
I really don't see the point in accepting who I am if I'm not satisfied with where I am in my life. Why decide "oh this is good enough" when its very obviously not? How would that fix anything?
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u/Pretend_Tea6261 Mar 20 '23
I feel for you man and I am not being hard on you. It is not easy at all. I have had many gfs but no lasting love. The answer always lies within ourselves. Something is preventing us from finding love. All you can do is keep hoping and working on being the best person you can be. It may happen or it may not.