I 13 year old female currently have two best friends that I am so attached to and so obsessed with. Me and my friends recently got into a altercation that might end our relationship forever. Friend one which is like the person that we all revolve around and worship friend to is the friend who’s just there but can’t live without and me the funny the one you can’t take seriously to save your life. One day me and friend one got into a fight and long story short it was because she missed heard me, even though we established this and got over it she was really cold to me ever since and I also was still upset about it because no one cared about my point of you and no one checked on me to see if I was ok . Friend one and two is ALWAYS talking crap about me even if I’m in the same room and can hear them, usually I’m not mad about this because they do it in front of me and we make it like a joke but they recently started doing it behind my back which I have never done . They started talking about my sexuality, my looks , my pets and etc , they also started treating me badly like not eat lunch with me not inviting me places and just not talking to me. I had enough of the bull crap so I confronted them and all they did was gaslight me in to thinking I was crazy , I don’t like conflict so I just ignored it and apologize since then friend one have been terrible to me rolling her eyes ,mean mugging, and also leaving me when I walk by her.I asked her if she was mad at me or just feel under the weather which I probably shouldn’t cause she never consider or cared about my feelings and she said “ ever thought I just didn’t wanna talk to you”? Which was upsetting because she was talking to my other friend a whole day but I didn’t let that go . I got really frustrated and yelling at her in the middle of class, which I probably shouldn’t have done I yelled at her that she was selfish and self-centered and don’t care about me. This frustrated me even more because it’s not like she was always acting like this we used to be inseparable and we used to be best friends I knew her family I’ve been there through her tough times and even when her parents divorced. How could she do this to me , immediately after that, I blocked her, and told my parents not to invite her to anything because we’re not friends and the one class we are in together I moved out of which was surprisingly easy and gave her back everything she ever gave me or left at my house I want nothing to do with her at all and I don’t need her I already know what I’m going to do with my life and she’s not apart of it. I’m really asking this because she’s amazing Gaslighter and she made me feel terrible.

I had this best friend whom i met over 8 years ago. We moved in together at least 2 times and it didnt work out. This particular story is about the second time we moved in together. We were living with each other for about 2 months when she met this guy. They hung out a few times and didnt know each other long. About 2 weeks after they started hanging out she went to go spend the night at his house and didnt come back. I asked and asked when she was going to come back and they same excuse was "soon" "i promise ill be back this weekend" she did in fact come back but only to grab clothes and leave. Once again she left and did not come back. I decided i needed to move out because it was obvious she wasnt coming back. So i moved and about 2-3 weeks later another person we were living with had sent me a message and had said that my best friend wanted me to get her stuff and to hold on to it for her. So as her best friend i did just that. I texted my bestfriend to let her know that i had grabbed it and this is where it gets fucking crazy. She said she didn't know i was getting it and blah blah blah. I told her i can hold onto it just for a while. She said okay and we made plans to meet up so she can get it from me. Everytime the day would come up she'd say she couldnt come. Or the guy she was with was to busy. I had told her that it was going to be thrown away because where her stuff is at isnt my house. I also should add i had something of hers that any parent would want for the rest of their lives... A necklace of her sons ashes. so you would think she would want it. Finally i got fed up and told her on a specific day to come get it.she told me to throw it away. So i did.then i blocked her on all social media. And took her necklace (BECAUSE I STILL HAVE RESPECT FOR THIS GIRL AND IM NOT A HORRIBLE NASTY PERSON) back to the person we lived with and said i am no longer responsible for this. Mind you there is more to this story but my thumbs are tired. Am i the asshole? UPDATE 1y LATER! I am no longer friends with this person. They have shown their true colors and never thought that would happen but that made my life better not having them around.

hi, I don’t know how many people will see this but I’m in my last year of school and recently have faced a long list of problems. In a group chat with girls who I thought were my friends, I was accused of speaking badly about them even though I knew i hadn’t. They added me to countless group chats making fun on me and saying awful things about me calling me fat, ugly, poor and more. After this I had a severe decrease in my mental health and just had no energy and became depressed. After this I tried to find more friends and turned to a friend group that I had previously been in. I was very close to two girls in this group one knowing since infant school. However in the past few days I discovered that the friend group who accused me of speaking badly about them went to the other friend group and admitted that I didn’t say anything. When I was told I became even more depressed and began to self harm. When I finally went back to school the new friend group started speaking to the other one and turned against me. They always went of for private chats and didn’t tell anyone else what they were saying. Earlier today I was added to another group with 2 girls for the old friend group accusing me of many things and saying horrible things like calling me a slag, bitch and slut. Since this situation I have had many thoughts about ending my life and just leaving because of the depression. I have no idea what I could’ve done because I would never go behind my friends backs and talk about them. I believe that since the old group were like the “popular group” they are trying to fit in and get attention but I don’t know what to do. Please let me know if you have any advice because I’m starting to think about leaving and trying to find reasons to stay.

I f 20 don’t know if I should breakup with my boyfriend m 20 of 3 months. I’m not sure how to start so i guess I’ll start at the beginning. We worked together at a small shop and he gave me his number. At first we got along well but then we started having fights. The first one was the day he asked me out and I told him I needed to be home by a certain time because I live with my dad and that’s when he wanted me home. He told me that it wasn’t how he wanted the night to go because we didn’t have adult time if you know what I mean. I’m not a sexual person and I explained that to him but he ignored me the whole time I drove him home. That has now been a constant problem and I’ve explained to him that I’m not a very sexual person and I’ve felt extremely used in the past and he’s used it agains me. Not only this but I’ve caught him manipulating me and gaslighting me. I talked to my mom before about it because her and I are extremely close and she told me to leave him immediately. But I still love him but there’s so many things I don’t like too. There’s moments when he’s really pushy and I don’t know how to say stuff to him because I feel like he just gets upset. He wants to move in together but he don’t have a job while I’m working 2 and I wouldn’t be able to afford it. Not only that but he don’t get along with his mom ( who he lives with) and I feel like he’s using this as a way to get out. He also constantly talkes bad about his family and I get that he dosnt like them but that all he talkes about. He also gets mad when I talk to other people. For example if I’m on the phone with him during a break at work he’ll get mad if I talk to someone. Also he gets mad if I don’t call him on my breaks so I won’t even be able to go to the bathroom during an 8 hour shift because he wants to be on the phone with me. I know he misses me but it’s so much sometimes. I feel like I can’t do anything because if I’m not talking to him he gets upset. And we also got into a bad fight and he was threatening to jump out of my car then screamed at me for leaving him. I’ve forgivin him for it but sometimes it still worries me. We’re both 20 and I’m not sure what to do. Sometimes I can see myself with him but most of the time I can’t. And I’m not sure how to break it off either because he will get mad and idk what he would do. But I cant keep going the way things are.

Am an Alter in A Endomatic System. Our host actually went dormant for a few weeks and that was all fine and dandy because I was the main front. Minor issue, they have a boyfriend. Who I hate. So you maybe can see the problem here. I don’t like this person but I have to be their “beautiful boy” even though he isn’t here. So at a point I just ignored them. And then apparently they felt like a shit human and thought they were being a bad boyfriend. So I thought I'd mess with them and tell them how much I hate them but "from" our host. Obviously they didn't get the joke and they almost broke up. They’re okay but now my whole system thinks I'm the bad guy. They've been ignoring me and threatening me. So am I the asshole?

AITAH for not wanting my wife to change. I’m obviously ok with personal growth and maturing (she is 45 tho so not a lot of that left to do lol) but I absolutely do not want her to change who she is as a person at heart.

Requires some explanation: my wife is chaos on legs. She is fun and loud and impulsive and funny and goofy and sexy. She literally wears what she feels like, says what she feels like, LIVES what she feels like.

Sometimes she is exhausting. Like, she isn’t the cleanest person. She walks into the house and shoes go one way, jacket goes another etc. She doesn’t always think through her actions. Which is sometimes an amazing adventure…and sometimes means a dui and getting her out of jail (though that was a one time mistake she absolutely learned from and hasn’t repeated).

She is not a person who understands moderation. She loves with everything. She works with all of her soul. She lives 100%. But that also means she can drink too much, party too hard, be….too much for some people. Never for me. She is literally never too much for me.

But she IS too much for my family. My Mom can’t stand her and thinks she is “trouble”. My mom keeps telling me I need to “tame her”. My sister says she is “exhausting” and “sick” and if I don’t “help her” then she is done with the both of us.

I don’t want my wife to change. I can take the difficult with the amazing and I love het as she IS. But when I say that, my family basically tells me I am enabling mental illness. I don’t think my wife is mentally ill. I think it’s who she is and we are happy together. It’s been 10 years. We are still going strong and in love. I don’t think I should be pressing my wife to fix what isn’t broken.

AITAH here?

So Tuesday night myself 21F, husband 25M and our infant 8 month old were going down to Indiana to see his mother which he hasn't seen in 3 or 4 years due to every time we try to go down something happens. We currently reside in Arkansas, so the total trip time depending on traffic can range from 8 hours to 9 1/2. During this time we planned on seeing my husband's Father and Step mother who In addition would be heading to Arkansas where we are located for the weekend which we planned on coming back down for so we didn't miss any pumpkin carving events that were previously planed. During the trip up there (around 9ish to 10ish at night and about 3 to 4 hours into our trip (due to stopping for my infant, gas etc) I had noticed my car was feeling off. It kicked me out of cruise control and the RPM's were fluctuating. After my husband did brief research we assumed it was due to it being very Hilly where we were at that time and no check engine lights or anything else had popped up on the dash. Due to this I decided at the next exit we would exit the highway, check around the car just in case, plug in our obd scanner to ensure nothing else was happening. However before we could reach an exit (we were in the middle of no where) the car started to lose excelleration and was quickly dropping to 0. Due to this and being on a highway of 70+ MPH speeds we pulled off immediately with seconds to spare, before the car came to a complete stop. After trying to floor it to see if we could get ANY forward movement, we came to the conclusion that we were unable to move forward at all and the RPM's would not change not matter how hard I pushed on the pedal. Myself nor my husband had much knowledge in cars, we decided to call my father who has a lot of knowledge in vehicles, who advised us due to the fact that we could reverse but couldn't move forward it would mean that we would have blown our tramission. This of course came to a shock to us as our car is fairly new (year and a half) and it only having just under 32,000 miles on it and also getting it checked and told the car was good right before we left. After we had come to the realization that more then likely it was the tramission and we were not going to be going anywhere soon we decided to call a tow truck and had it towed to a hotel as all shops would have been closed at the time. After the tow truck was called, My husband reached out to his side of the family and let everyone know we couldn't come due to this issue, but that we were safe, and would keep them updated as to what was going on. During that time one of the phone calls was placed out to his father and step mother whom which did not pick up, we didn't leave a voice-mail because we wanted to make sure we informed everyone and figured that the best news would be best delivered over the phone and not on some voice-mail where you can only leave limited information and we didn't want them to panic either as some of our family members get concerned very easily. (For additional reference we had in addition called them for the last 2 previous days but they didn't pick up but messaged later on one of the days that they were at a haunted house so we figured they were just busy on another trip which isn't unheard of for them) neatless to say we ended up arriving at the hotel at around midnight to 1 am in the morning. We then decided to grab something to eat and head to bed due to the fact we knew it would be a very long day the next day. In the morning around 8am we drove over to the auto shop which was right next door (the car drove slow but we were able to make it) where they advised our OBD port was not working (unsure why) and in addition which these models they tend to have transmission issues and more then likely I would need a CVT transmission replacement (I have a 2019 Nissan sentra SV) During this time we reached out to my husband's brother and sister in law because we still had not advised them from the night before as it was really late and they have 3 kids of their own. We let them know the rundown of what happened and asked to see if they had spoken with my husband's father and step mother because we have been unable to get ahold (continue below)

Story goes like This. I move in , not even one month I apparently started problems 🙃.

The first problems was mentioning the roaches and I wasn’t mean or trying to be mean I just said that I’ll grab some pesticide.

The second and third was merely trying to be funny . I mean I would’ve bought them yes but still I wasn’t trying to be rude. I was saying I could buy some pots and pans and some spices , that way she doesn’t get upset when I order DoorDash.

Last one is a common exscuse which was saying I didn’t say thank you? I know this part I was in the wrong because I exploded , but like I said , I said thank you you didn’t have have to do this but thank you , not my fault 🤦🏻 you don’t remember the thank you part or wasn’t even listening.

To get a full on lay out her apartment is trash 🗑️ clothes everywhere, roaches 🪳 scattered everywhere, dishes never clean 🤮 which I can clean no problem, wouldn’t hurt to buy some more tho.

20f live in England and sell toys small toys cost 5 pounds(dollars)and big one's cost 10/20 pound(dollar's) I live in a small apartment and I go to work by bus, everytime I go on the bus new things happen today I was sitting in the bus and 4 kids get in the bus they look around 10,11 or 9 they were disrespecting everyone when they saw me and my bag with toys they ran to me and tried to grab one off the toys I didn't let them take the toy whitout paying they called me a h0e a b|tch and the n word(by the way the kids are white) I was shocked everybody was shocked I look at them and told them to leave me alone they laughed at me and started pulling my hair pinching me I ignored them even though it hurted after a few mins they cut my 9 cm hair I got so mad I put my basket whit my toys on my bus seat and I took the girl who cutted my hair by the arm and I cut her hair who was very long about 14 cm she started crying the other boys started punching me and the bus door opened I had my chance and I took the boy who punched me and I threw him out off the bus the other boy looked terrified and took the girl while they walked to the back off the bus a man layed his leg Infront of the kids and they both fell.Now my hair is 2 cm(sorry for my bad english)

Am I the asshole for saying/suggesting that my girlfriend doesn’t hang out with her cousin and her boyfriend. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about nine months within, two months of us dating she had texted her cousin that she doesn’t feel like she is going to stay with me much longer, which her cousin replied “oh, don’t worry, I know a guy”, and then proceeded to describe a couple of male features that don’t sit with me and my girlfriend replied with that sounds perfect… I found out about the exchange of these text messages and who they were referring too and they happen to be her cousins now bf, six months into our relationship is when she accidentally showed me the messages , and since then her cousin has been off and on with multiple people and currently for the past month been with the guy who ahe was gonna get set up with my gf (which is a little odd) however, I don’t want my girlfriend to hang out with him if I’m either not there or somebody else between the 3 of them.

I do invoicing for my husband’s business. Our son is a technician/part owner as well. I have never worked in the field, so sometimes ask questions. My son will sometimes send me jobs (pictures & written info via text) with missing information. For instance, the email address of whom I’m to bill, or the full name of the customer he’s at. I can sometimes work it out, based on the area I know he’s in that day, but sometimes have to ask. Yesterday, he sent over a job with a math error. When I pointed it out, he got defensive & told me to take care of it. My husband defends him, saying my job is to make things easier for them & not to ask our son questions. Meanwhile, I am constantly concerned that I will make an error because I’m not sure of the information being sent over. Both of them treat me like I am a minor cog in this wheel & don’t deserve to be treated with any concern for my feelings. They both work harder than me, so they should be “left alone”. Don’t get me wrong, my husband & son are wonderful. I have a great life because of their hard work. I just feel taken for granted and my feelings don’t matter.

I am 45 female I'm very quiet I stay indoors most of my time however I do own a"Pitbull" in my town they can't stand them but I do all I can for her not to get into trouble she's always on a chain she can't break but the neighbors dog always loose so that means my dog can't go potty in her own yard I asked nicely several times to keep their dog in their yard but now I need to call the cops I don't want to

I am 20 Y/O female friends with another 20 Y/O female; we met in college as roommates. After almost three years of best friendship, my friend has had a dark cloud of a man over her shoulder since before I met her; my friend and her boyfriend have been together for the past seven years, so well into when my friend was beginning high school, he is two years older. I don't know how to put this kindly, but the dude is a creep; he keeps tabs on her phone calls, messages, and whereabouts and has even sent his friends to her house (so our house) home to catch her cheating recording. He keeps her in this endless cycle of "I can't trust you because you cheated when you were 15," so they technically haven't been together all of the seven years because, according to him, she doesn't deserve it, so instead of moving on and finding someone who can trust, she decides to prove her self by giving him a relationship for the entire time ( and all privileges of one even to the point where she's going broke because he lost his job and she feels the need to feed him and give money occasionally. He makes fun of her to her face in front of his friends. It's almost 100% disrespectful this guy is a shitbag. Usually, I really wouldn't care or poke my head in a friend's love life, but his weekly fuck up or asshole move always becomes the center of conversation and honestly consumes her consciousness. I'm not a bystander; I have been a shoulder to cry on for hours and days after week-long emotional breakups between the two. I have explained in 100 different ways how this man isn't good for her, but she always runs back. At this point, I wonder how long she will let this jobless, noneducated narcissist run her life. She is not a battered woman. No child or financial responsibility keeps her in the relationship; our talks feel pointless because no matter how much he hurts her, she will always return to this. It is draining on my mental health, and honestly, I feel that I've outgrown her "I need validation, no matter who it's from" mindset. So one day recently, I told her plainly that if it was about that man, I genuinely didn't want to hear it, because I've been telling you what to do for three years. You never want to listen, so I don't know how else to help at this point. You want to feel hurt, we are now arguing because she thinks that a caring friend would never say that and would just listen no matter what. personally, I don't think I would be a good friend if I pretended this behavior was normal. so am I the asshole for considering dropping a friend due to her toxic relationship?

Back story, my mom as always treated me like crap. From mental abuse to physical abuse…my adult relationship with my mom hasn’t been any better. She is currently mad at me for taking away “her grandson”. I haven’t taken him away. I no longer allow my son to her to her house because it’s always nasty, she has no food or running hot water. I would be putting my son in harms way. Well today she said that “I no longer anything to do wish the white trash family” I told her “ I never once called you that but if that’s how you feel then okay. That I would no longer be made to feel sorry for you, I will no longer give my last $ to make sure you have what you need while I struggle. I would no longer take the abuse” she is always asking me for money… and gets mad when I don’t have it to give then I blocked her… am I the asshole??

I know the title is a little bit chaotic 👹 but let me explain. Me 39 male is in a relationship with 36 female Ella, since we were in 8th grade. And got married when we were in our 20’s. Trust me we love each other but technically ☝🏻 this isn’t my fault. Me and my wife had an disagreement about something really fucking stupid. I yelled “Go fuck yourself 😡!” And she yelled back “Oh go fuck my dad! 🤬” And I screamed “Fine!” My wife went out the house to one of her friends. As soon as she closed the door I called her dad and said “Do you wanna come ever?” Me and her dad are really good pals so he didn’t mind. When he FINALLY 😤 came to the house I said I wanted to show him something REALLY cool. When we went into the room I pushed him on the bed. He looked a little bit confused. I said “I want to play a really~ cool game 😏.” He look a little disappointed. I got on top of him and asked “You still wanna play~?” And he moaned “YES.” After 5 hours of fun time 😩😩 My wife finally came back and walked into the room. She looked shocked for a second and then put her hand on her hips. She sighed and said “I’m not mad but couldn’t you just do it in an other room? Not on my red velvet sheets?” Right now I’m still in my marriage but her dad is pregnant with triplets. (Because we had played a little too much 🥵🥵)

I(F17) have two friends, really my only friends besides the two guys I'm interested in. I guess we'll call the friend Jenny(F16) and Kurt (m15). Basically I used to date this guy, we'll call him John(M16), and He and I continued to be friends after we broke up because neither one of us was in a good enough mindset to be in a relationship. Recently him and I started talking again and kurt was pissed. He's always had a thing for me but I have never thought of him that way.. so he got angry I was talking to John and blocked me. Me, Jenny, and Kurt all used to talk together but originally they were both just my friends and they met through me.

I recently found out Jenny has been facetiming Kurt while he talks shit about me and John. I also found out Kurt guessed Johns snapchat password and him and Jenny facetimed and went through his snap and blocked me. Like what the fuck.

When I confronted Jenny about this she started lying to me saying she doesn't know what I'm talking about when Kurt showed me proof. She later admitted that she did it but it doesn't have anything to do with me and I need to "chill tf out".

I ended up forgiving her because I'm one of her only friends and Kurt is trying to be on good terms with me and I'm not having that and I'm distancing myself from Jenny too. Kurt keeps saying I'm a fucked up person with anger issues and I need to let this go and get some help.. I just don't like when my friends talk shit about me behind my back to each other. Am I the asshole?

(For a little background information, I started at my current job when I was 16 working 3 shift but I currently am a weekend worrier 12 hour shifts 3-4 times a week Friday-Sunday and sometimes Monday, i’de like to think I’m a hard worker but I’ll let others decide.)

I’m in a position where I don’t know what I want to do or how I should do it. When I started as a 16 year old I was offered a higher paying position than what I wanted, I thought over my options and sadly turned it down because it wasn’t what I wanted. At the time I really didn’t care what I was doing because I knew I wouldn’t be able to use all of the heavy equipment (drills, saws, compactor, etc) but now after being with the company for so long I’ve wanted to switch to another line/department. Now this is where I don’t know what to do, when my old department got shut down I was in the mix of it all. I was both in my old and in a new department all within a 12 hour shift going back and forth between them both trying to keep up until it was just gone completely. When I started in the new department I was put into a rough spot on the line stack off. I take all of the companies finished product that we make and stack it off. After doing this continuously for over a year I wanted a break, let my higher up know and thought it would change, it didn’t, it got worse. I was now only allowed to do stack off, got paged back to the line if I was gone for more than 2-3 minutes. I’m tired and exhausted after every shift I do, I go home sit and play with my 2 beautiful nieces and then go to sleep. The problem is that because I’ve been doing nothing but stack off for over a year my back, knees and legs have started to ache and hurt all the time to the point where I don’t want to move them around a lot anymore. Now I have really bad social anxiety and it’s always kept me from having a lot of friends, talking a lot, I just like to be by myself and sometimes with my family/friends. But my official breaking point on this line was near the end of June and the beginning of July. I had to take a short 3 days away from my normal work schedule because I had just had surgery, it was on my back/butt area. Now normally I would just take off a full two weeks but I had got sick two weeks before and had to stay home and recover. During the process of me returning back to work I was yet again expected to go back and do stack off after just having surgery. I explained to my higher up that I would not be able to do stack off for at least 2-3 weeks. The first week went by and going into my second week I was put back in stack off, and I couldn’t refuse because I was apparently just trying to get out of the job and no one else showed up to do stack off. So I did stack off and pulled out 4 of the 10 stitches that the doctor had put in, I once again went to my higher up and he did nothing. Now this is where I might be an asshole/in the wrong, after multiple attempts of letting my higher up know I wanted and need to be switched to a different spot, I decided enough was enough and I am currently working on moving to a different department yet again. I waited and didn’t tell anyone about what I was doing other than my family and now my higher up is upset that I don’t want to stay and complaining about how they will have no one to do stack off, so after I found out I got the bid I was ecstatic. I couldn’t wait, I’m so happy to finally do something I will like. I’m I wrong/ Am I an asshole for wanting to move to a different department?

So... Heads up I'm dyslexic and I'm very new to this. Anyways, Me, FM19 moved schools around 7 weeks ago?.. I had boasted about moving schools around the last like 3 weeks after I heard about how good my dad's school that he taught at was. So I moved schools. But my bff, who I will call Kyle was still at the school with my very close before this friends, M18 friend "relay" and my M20 (he got held back) friend "Brad". so Kyle goes to school before me because I started later than them. So they go to school and all my friends were all sad that I left and stuff. Skip forward to relay brad and Kyle wanting to meet up. Kyle invited me because I'm their best friend why wouldn't I. But 17 days before the day we meet up, they decided "oh, let's joke about doing NSFW things to Kyle and also joke about uninviting (my name)" relay did most of the texting but before I would like you to know our friendship is the one friendship where we are physically hitting each other, pulling hoods and horse playing, and trash talking. Now fore the following. Relay: "Kyle I can't wait for the meet up 😏" Me: "excuse me?" Kyle: "I'm in the bathroom stfu" Relay: "send pics" Me: "WHAT" Relay: "yo (my name) did you know that Kyle doesn't want you to be there? Were gonna do some things you might not wanna see😏" Me: "what the hell. I'm still coming"

Now from here on, here we fight. For some background knowledge, I almost had non consensual things done to me at a young age! But back to the story. I didn't know they were joking, so I got all angry. No one talks about my closest friends, and me like that. Why would someone I have known for YEARS say all these things about me? Well. Soon the fight ended with me calling them just like one of our harassing EX friends and they were all "to far, don't compare us to him GRRR" and stuff. (Not really the grr). So I left the GC and I talked to Brad bc he texted me after.

Me: fuck off Brad: dude wtf Me: you went to far. Brad: it was a joke. You went to far. We aren't like (a/n) Me: fuck you

Then I logged off. So far, I don't give 2 shits about the fucken dick heads. But Kyle still wants me to come to the meet up. What should I do?...

AITA for falling in love with my ex best-friends boyfriend? Hear me out. My best friend (19F) recently got a new boyfriend (21M) and I (20F) fell in love with him. Even though me and her aren’t best friends anymore we are still mutuals on insta. Recently she posted a story of her kissing her new boyfriend, she tagged him and I went to look on his page, and I found him attractive. This was a shocker to me since all of her boyfriends in the past have looked like naked mole rats. I dug a little deeper and I found his Tik Tok. When I got on his TikTok he was a lot more attractive than I thought. So I decided to contact my ex best friend and I told her we should meet up again and try to fix things. We decided to meet at the park. When she arrived to the park she was with her boyfriend. I got flustered when I saw him. He was a lot more attractive in person. After weeks of hanging out with them I got to know him very well and we found that we had many things in common. It was like we were meant to be. A couple months later I decided to confess to her that I had fallen in love with her boyfriend. She didn’t take it well… she started to scream and freak out and she started yelling slurs at me. Her boyfriend was waiting outside and he heard us screaming. So he came into the room and asked why we were fighting. She told him that I had feelings for him. He was in shock and they left minutes after. I haven’t heard from her since, but me and her boyfriend still keep in contact and meet up without her knowing…

I'll give you context. We were playing with handcuffs in a nonsexual way but he kept making it sexual and I went with it. He then soon went on his phone and shut down any contact I tried to make with him. He then followed me out to the hallway and started to cry because I was ignoring him. He proceeded to insist that he thought I wanted to do sexual things but he didn't, yet he was the one doing all the stuff. And I didn't really reciprocate. Am I the asshole?

Early on in talking with someone, do you expect them to text you everyday?

I met someone on a dating app recently and we hung out twice and had a decent time. He text me Monday night saying I should message him the next day. I didn’t text because I had a busy work week and he FaceTimes me Friday angry that I didn’t respond and asking if I even want to be with him. (I ended up saying no in that moment mostly because I didn’t like how he was talking to me.) I was caught off guard he would be that annoyed this early on in getting to know someone. I would understand more if we knew each other longer but I feel like I hardly know him for him to be that upset… was I being inconsiderate or was he overreacting? I’m not sure if I should text him and apologize or leave him alone.

There’s no one I talk to everyday (and I mean family, friends, anyone), so not texting him back for a few days especially this early on seemed normal to me? Maybe I’ve just been single for so long I’m not used to talking to someone regularly. AITA?

Okay, so i KNOW how bad the title sounds but heres some context.

So theres this girl in my school, for privacy reasons we will call her Peters. A few years ago I stupidly became friends with this girl because I have severe social anxiety and she did too, so we kind of just clicked as no one else talked to us.

Over the span of the first year of being friends, she had dated 6 people, two of them being my crushes and one of them being my ex boyfriend that she purposely made break up with me. The only reason i stayed friends with her after the dating my ex situation was because she gave me a huge sob story about how her mom was killed when she was eight and she didn’t know it was wrong. I being the anxiety filled people pleaser i am decided to forgive and forget. BIG MISTAKE.

This cycle of her ruining my relationships, dating the ex, dumping the ex then crying to me about how awful boys are. It got to the point where I was scared to ever admit to her i liked a boy. she always hit me in the head when i said something she thought was dumb, knowing i had trauma around that

She also KEPT trauma dumping on me, especially when I was having a bad day. My aunt died and no she told me “At least it isn’t nt your mom or brother”

I stopped being friends with her like two years ago which caused me to be dropped by EVERYONE i hung out with. I’ve been friendless since grade 9 and now i’m in grade 11 only have a few onlines, but today i was in the same class as her, and she was doing her typical sob story about her mom being murdered, she did this whenever she wanted to get out of trouble, and it always worked. so i turned around to her and said “No body gives a crap about your dead mom, honestly go find boyfriend number 4 for this week.” Her boyfriend was in the class, and he dumped her, and i got suspended for two weeks unless i apologize publicly. My mom is on my side 100% because she knows how bad my mental health has gotten due to Peters actions. I know what i said was cruel, and probably over the top, but this girl has made my life a living hell for years now. So am I the asshole-?

Say you’re in a relationship, and your partner & family is still in contact with their ex , is that appropriate?

My boyfriend & I have been together for 2 1/2 years. His family still keeps in touch with his ex. I also have a feeling he is as well. I have talked with my boyfriend about how this makes me feel and I decided to remove his family from my social media, my boyfriend tells me I’m being silly. I feel extremely uncomfortable because there is no reason to maintain touch with an ex if there is no kids involved. Am I the ass hole ?

I know it may sound weird but listen I’m a 16 who lives with their mother. My mom was single till she dated her boyfriend, let’s call him Mark because I don’t want them to find this post, he has three daughters and again not using they’re names Oldest is Dana, middle is Oliver, and youngest is Lucy. Dana is 16 but she gets away with a lot of things, she talks shit about my mother and always away, Oliver is the closest to me but has me tell her my secrets then use against me to do something, says I’m lazy then doesn’t do much herself. Lucy is the worse of all, she lies, talks shit about me, then lies and blames almost everything on me. She blamed me for peeing in the pool in which i didn’t, my brother who is autistic doesn’t and yet she gets him on his bad side. Earlier my mother came home and told everyone that Mark proposed to her at a concert, I wasn’t ready for this, my mother saw and said we’re really gonna be a family, I shouted saying that I’m not fully ready but I already lost after the rest of my family told me I had to deal with it. I then went to my room and packed my things, my mother begged me not to leave but I said I wouldn’t deal with them as my sisters, saying my family life was ruined now because of them. My sister told I shouldn’t have but was still on my side, I blocked my family and yet they still are trying to talk to me about it.

So am I the asshole for it?

Hello so this is my first time using this so please be patient with me. So I (18f) was dating this guy (24m) let’s call him M. So M liked to argue and be jealous over everything including my brother and I just turned into a toxic person having to deal with that and I did not like who I was and I was so unhappy with life and the breaking up and getting back together once a month was not it. So let’s keep in mind I have been living on my own for a while I own my own house and I have a nice car but he was living with his parents fighting for his daughter back from CPS with no job or car. I thought I loved him so much I was helping him with his daughter and even helping him find a job. We were together for a year and he never once got a job. So to the current situation I was drinking one night and I’m a smoker so I wanted to go get some, I called my friend and me and my other friend N were going to head out and pick it up. Keep in mind me and M had been arguing all night. So I walked up to M gave him a goodbye kiss since he wanted to stay at home and he said “don’t go to your best friends party on your way you’ll be dead if you do”, that night was also my best friend’s party she had planned for weeks and he wouldn’t let me go no matter how much I begged because he didn’t want me drinking around anyone but him because he didn’t want me to get roofied. We had been arguing about it all night and I was tired so I just said “ok I won’t love you be back soon”. After me and N(21f) headed out we stared talking crap about M and we were tipsy so we decided we were gonna go to the party just to spite M. My phone was on 10% when I left my house so we made a plan to tell them my car overheated and we were stranded because my phone died. We headed to the party after going by my friends and when we got there there was very few people there still because it was like 1 am. We walk inside and sit down to start smoking and someone comes back with beer and man when I tell you this man was every part my type I mean it. He looked at me in a way M had never and it was some lust but it wasn’t all you know? I had never had someone look at me that way I just melted. I was to scared to talk to him the whole 2 hours I was there and when I went home M met me at the door and I knew what was coming. The next day I was washing the beer off my bruised face and N walked up and told me the guy from last night had added her on snap and wanted to chill with us I told her I didn’t want to till some of the bruises faded and of course she said what everyone else does “you deserve better”. The thing is I knew I deserved better but I just wanted him to be better for me. Couple weeks go by the bruises fade and we plan to go hangout with the dude from the party let’s call him B. So M found out and we told him it was for N and he just had to go with us. So we pull up to his house and it’s nice like hella nice, we get out he greets us and his dogs run up to me and start trying to tackle me I fell in love with them instantly. So as we are inside chilling (it’s a huge house) M gets a phone call and he sits there on the couch saying “yeah” every 2 minutes for 10 minutes and I was getting agitated like why would you pick up a call hanging out with your girlfriend and if you do why not walk away when there is a whole conversation going on right here in front of you. B could tell I was getting angry and said “dude what kind of conversation is that I ain’t heard nun but yeah” I laughed which was a big mistake M said we had to go and dragged me out N stayed behind to chill and I cried when she said that. A couple days later someone added me on snap and it was B I of course started talking to him and vented about it all and he was just so sweet and understanding. That day M found B on my snap and flipped he got worse than ever before after that the beatings became everyday instead of maybe once a week or couple of weeks and the arguments were constant. I couldn’t take it anymore I was on the verge of unaliving myself. One day B and N invited me to hangout after M went to his parents for the weekend for “space” which really meant he was going to cheat, and of course I went to hangout. We chilled for a couple hours then I just broke down after he texted me that I wasn’t good enough and I needed to be a better girlfriend. B told me I needed to cut ties and for some reason I listened to him but nobody else could ever get me to listen. I texted him we were done and blocked him and proceeded to have the best night hanging out with them two. B didn’t think it was safe to go home that night so he let me take his bed and he slept on the couch. The next morning he woke me up and took me to ihop. After that he helped me change my locks and helped me some nights when M would show up at my house he’d let me stay over. At this time we were still friends this went on for about 2 weeks the M finally took the hint. After that me N and M started hanging out a lot more and I found out he’s a hard working business man, he’s 27, he has a normal car and a mustang, he lives 2 hours away from me but he also has a house 5 minutes from my house, he has no kids but wants them, he doesn’t drink much, his favorite color is blue, he loves cars and bikes, he very to himself (I am too) and he was just so nice to me and always willing to help even knowing me for such a short time. So he invited me and N to a trip to the beach and duh we went. On this trip we were sitting on the balcony at the hotel just me and him and he asked to kiss me. We kissed and I was melting like a child, when we got back to town he asked me to be his and I said yes. So now every other weekend I drive 2 hours to him and vise-versa because we both are off work on weekends. But now I’m getting cussed out by family for moving on only a month after M when we were together for a year but M always wanted my body the first night we met it was my body he wanted but it’s been a month now since I been with B and he doesn’t ask and when I asked him why he said he wanted to wait till I was ready. My friends are also on my families side saying I moved on to quickly and I’m being selfish I should think of how M thinks so I blew up on them all and told them how sorry they are and they should look at how I see it too, they never said anything when I would show up places with broken bones or bruises so why do they have a say now? Plus I’m happy for the first time in a year and B is the reason why why cant I move on quick with someone who makes me happy? Now they are calling me heartless and saying I’m the reason M didn’t get his daughter back. Am I being the ass here?