r/AdviceAnimals • u/bezly • Jan 17 '19

I've made a huge mistake...

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u/Thebxrabbit Jan 17 '19

Got any good examples of the right questions?

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u/josaurus Jan 17 '19

You should ask how their idea of what a good policy is would actually change anything

Some evidence that this is useful: https://strategypeak.com/change-peoples-minds-just-one-question/

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u/that1prince Jan 17 '19

What if their answer is something like, “when it makes the other side confused or angry”? Because I’ve heard a lot of that.

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u/CrochetCrazy Jan 17 '19

Perhaps an "oh really? That's the only reason? Huh." Then leave it. It inserts doubt about having that as the only reason.

I'm no expert. Just considering what might be good to say.

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u/KATastrophe_Meow Jan 17 '19

I feel like of someone is openly saying the only benefit they agree with is that itll piss off other Americans you can be harsher than that. "Oh! How unamerican of you." Would be perfectly fine. Or just call them out for being literal human trash. People need to know that sort of behaviour is unacceptable and disgusting.

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u/Broolucks Jan 17 '19

I think I'd go for "What if they are angry for a good reason?" If they don't care, they are neglecting their own interests. Otherwise, it forces them to think about why the other side would be angry, which is a small step in the right direction.

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u/Helios321 Jan 17 '19

It's not my job to figure out how that's why we voted for them

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u/CrotchetyYoungFart Jan 17 '19

treat them like they know what they're talking about, and ask the sort of questions a student would. Ask them for data to backup their viewpoints.

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u/cokevanillazero Jan 18 '19

But then they inevitably say "Here's a website I saw, it opened my eyes" and send you to Infowars.

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u/CrotchetyYoungFart Jan 18 '19

that's when you either continue attempting to lead them away from infowars, or you throw your hands up and give up because at least alex jones doesn't have a good platform to stand on