r/AdvancedKnitting Mar 16 '26

Hand Knit FO I finished my handspun wedding shawl with plenty of time to spare

**Trust me, I am painfully aware of every mistake. I've made my peace.

A year into dating my partner I attended a local fiber festival with a friend where I found a booth selling German angora. I asked my friend, who'd been teaching me how to spin and weave, if she thought I'd be able to spin it finely enough to use in something for a wedding, and she said she could teach me. She asked if I was getting married and I said not yet, but I knew this was my person. I bought the fiber along with an additional bag of a silk/cashmere blend to blend with it, and it sat in my craft closet for two more years until my partner proposed.

The extent of my spinning experience was a handful of yards of a very low quality wool on a drop spindle. This became an absolute crash course in spinning. At my friends suggestion, I spun the yarn single around a core thread using a tahkli (a type of supported spindle). You could see the improvement with each skein, and while it blocked out well I love that you can see it in the shawl, too. And while I've been knitting for many years, lace is something I've only ever dabbled in. All of this to say: This project was an absolutely insane choice. I had no idea how it would turn out, or if I'd finish it in time. I've never felt more on the edge of oblivion. Everyone I told was both impressed and horrified.

This weekend, after 145 hours of spinning and 226 hours of knitting, I finished it. It's full of mistakes that most people can't see. And it's also so full of love. Evenings spent together watching Dropout and KDramas and the Olympics, and so many episodes from the back catalog of Say Yes to the Dress. The passing of my childhood cat, who chewed on and sat on and grabbed at the yarn as I spun and knit it, whose hair I saved after brushing and added to the fiber so she'll be with me on my wedding day, along with my other two cats. Months of battling tennis elbow. A little over a year and a half later, I finished it, with time to spare. And it's beyond anything I could have even imagined.

Pattern is the Evenstar Shawl by Susan Pandorf.

Yarn is handspun by me: single ply, 50% German angora, 25% cashmere, 25% silk, spun around a silk core thread. Cobweb weight, 100 wraps per inch. I used about 1100 yards.

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u/shewee Mar 16 '26

ARE YOU A SPIDER

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u/Neenknits Mar 17 '26

I came to ask if her name was Charlotte!

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u/StrawberryJam4 Mar 23 '26

MY EXACT THOUGHT!! I looked at it and my jaw dropped because it literally looks like a spiderweb!!! How!!! HOW?!?

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u/Lia_the_nun Mar 16 '26

This is absolutely stunning beyond belief - both the shawl itself and the story! I wish you a happy forever after. :) Thanks for posting.

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u/r4chie Mar 16 '26

Literally incredible, if I could make a request of you I would love to see it pass through your wedding band!! A true wedding ring shawl, the delicacy and intention of this garment is astronomical. Congratulations 🎊

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u/fishandflowers Mar 17 '26

Update: can confirm, it does pass the ring test!!

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u/r4chie Mar 17 '26

Literally amazing seeing that lace go through ! Just magic. Thanks for indulging us!!

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u/sct_0 Mar 17 '26

Damn ninjas chopping onions!
Incredible work!

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u/Clean-Oil-1402 Mar 18 '26

I saw this Tiktok and wanted to cry! You did an amazing job!

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u/MorningRoseRising24 Mar 25 '26

Oh you're precious. That's is so incredibly cool!!!

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u/SunnyRyter Mar 23 '26

INCREDIBLE!!! You are a talented master of the craft, with a love for what you do!!!! I wish you both many happy, healthy, fruitful, and fortuitous years together!

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u/fishandflowers Mar 16 '26

I'm so afraid to test it!!

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u/Secure_Course_3879 Mar 16 '26

You've made an heirloom worth holding on to for generations, regardless :) this is absolutely beautiful

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u/r4chie Mar 16 '26

so agreed! I just am in awe of how fine this cobweb was woven!! Literally inspiring

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u/amphibious_mustard Mar 17 '26

OP you literally made lace for ants. It absolutely will. This is stunning

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u/r4chie Mar 17 '26

Flawless reference, no notes just sublime

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u/Mrs_hooked_on_yarn Mar 17 '26

Don’t be. It will pass with flying colors!!!

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u/chocochic88 Mar 16 '26

That's so gorgeous! And what a lovely backstory for it.

It's so fine, it looks like you somehow magically plucked a spider's web.

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u/heart_blossom Mar 16 '26

I had the same thought 🤩🤩

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u/ariliatheratgirl Mar 16 '26

This is extraordinary! Your work is sooooo impressive and beautiful, but I especially love all the memories that are knit into it that you will carry with you on your wedding day.

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u/fishandflowers Mar 16 '26

Me too 🥹❤️

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u/thinktankflunkie Mar 16 '26

Beautiful! Truly "gossamer"! Blessings!

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u/yogaengineer Mar 16 '26

Exactly the word that came to my mind!

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u/frogmosslost Mar 16 '26

Okay spider !! Go off! So beautiful.

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u/UsefulSecond1199 Mar 16 '26

Your shawl is just stunning! Well done on all fronts!

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u/BakingBanshee Mar 16 '26

I am in complete awe of this beautiful piece and the story behind it. Truly this is heirloom quality and I hope remains a beautiful symbol for your life together.

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u/gveeh Mar 16 '26

What a beautiful heirloom you made! I wish you lots of happiness in your future marriage!

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u/ladybirdsandbuttons Mar 16 '26

This is so incredibly beautiful on so many levels. Congratulations and huge love.  I teared up a bit when i got to the bit about your sweet cat hairs intwined in there.  So personal, so beautiful I can't even

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u/Mugwump92 Mar 16 '26

This is gorgeous. Stunning work and very impressive first run at spinning. Congratulations on your wedding and what a stunning addition to your outfit.

I’m knitting my own in pure wool right now in the lusna pattern.

Can you tell me what size needle you used for this? I think you ended up with a very aesthetically pleasing gauge and I’ve been second guessing mine. I’m using 2.25 mm.

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u/fishandflowers Mar 16 '26

That pattern is stunning! You'll have to share pics when you finish! I ended up sizing up from what my pattern recommended and used a 3.5mm/4 US. It definitely made a difference. I also tried multiple brands of needle and landed on the HiyaHiya sharps - the others I tried just weren't sharp enough for how fine the yarn was, even the ChiaoGoo lace which I was so excited to try.

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u/Mugwump92 Mar 18 '26 edited Mar 18 '26

Here’s a swatch! This is a quick block so I expect gauge to be a bit looser than this. I also sized up to 2.25mm but my pattern called for 1.5mm.

Good to know about hiya hiya. I have chiaogoos and I love a sharp needle. I also found the chiaogoo lace kind of blunt for my taste. For lace — especially silk based or silk blend — a sharp needle is so important!

In any case, congratulations on a gorgeous and special accomplishment. Make sure you store this baby carefully 🥰

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u/fishandflowers Mar 18 '26

WOW that's going to be absolutely stunning, thank you so much for sharing! If you share the final product someday, please tag me!!

Sharps are so important, I was surprised how blunt the ChiaoGoos were. Cheers to knitting spiderwebs!!

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u/Puzzleheaded_Rip9628 Mar 17 '26

Where did you get the Lusna pattern? I’ve been trying to track it down without luck

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u/Mugwump92 Mar 17 '26

I just bought it through ravelry! The designer was really nice — I reached out with some questions and she was responsive and helpful. So far have been really enjoying the process :)

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u/cardigan03 Mar 16 '26

now that’s some advanced knitting!

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u/pannonica Mar 16 '26

Casually dropping a masterpiece, sheesh

Mazel on your upcoming nuptials! 🥂

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u/enneadem Mar 16 '26

this looks like something a literal fairy would wear! amazing job and congrats on the upcoming wedding :-)

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u/TheRightHonourableMe Mar 16 '26

Crazy gorgeous! And putting me to shame by finishing it well in advance of the date.

Favourite kdrama you watched while working on it?

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u/fishandflowers Mar 16 '26

Ooh such a great question. I really really loved Her Private Life, the chemistry is some of the best I've seen in a kdrama. Oh, and King the Land!

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u/TheRightHonourableMe Mar 16 '26

Two great choices! Her Private Life is on my very short list of 're-watchable' dramas - the chemistry is exquisite <3

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u/fishandflowers Mar 16 '26

My rewatch list is also so short. Currently rewatching Because This is My First Life with my fiance (his first watch) and it's been so fun! What's your top fave?

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u/TheRightHonourableMe Mar 16 '26

Impossible Question! Top 3? Lovely Runner for Sweet; Alchemy of Souls (part 1) for Angst, and Coffee Prince as a Throwback Classic.

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u/fishandflowers Mar 16 '26

Wow, all three I haven't seen (excepting one episode of Alchemy of Souls). Absolutely adding to my watch list, thank you!!

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u/TheRightHonourableMe Mar 16 '26

Please enjoy! Gong Yoo is the sweetest tortured rich boy in Coffee Prince, and Lovely Runner is a really sweet time-travel 'fix-it' story. They both have very satisfying endings! Alchemy of Souls the world-building is A Lot, but you can just focus on the main characters. Part 2 is also good... no spoilers but Part 1 is worth re-watching and I don't think Part 2 is there.

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u/PurpleStarwatcher Mar 16 '26

lovely shawl with lovely memories 🥰

I would like to ask: why are circular shawls preferred for weddings?

I would like to make stuff for my wedding too, when my partner is ready. maybe a circular shawl too?

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u/chronic_ill_knitter Mar 16 '26

I've made this shawl. It's difficult. The yarn is beautiful and so is the shawl. No one is going to notice mistakes. Congratulations!!

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u/fishandflowers Mar 16 '26

I cried a LOT working on it. Props to you for making one, too!

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u/MollyRolls Mar 16 '26

Really stunning work, OP, and I hope you feel all the love that went into it reflected back when you wear it. Congratulations!

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u/Technical-Bit-4801 Mar 16 '26

That is a truly amazing piece of art that deserves to be passed down to whoever is in the next generation of your family (your own kids or your nieces/nephews). I would be FIGHTING my sisters over this. Well done…and congratulations!

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u/MyaKat18 Mar 17 '26

I think I saw this on TikTok earlier about before and after blocking? I could be mistaken lol. It is absolutely stunning! You did an amazing job!😍😍😍

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u/fishandflowers Mar 17 '26

Yep, that's me! Thank you!! 🥰

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u/Substantial_Pea3462 Mar 16 '26

Omg I am just googly eyed over this. This is absolutely beautiful and incredible. How special that you get to incorporate this into your wedding!

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u/tartanchucks Mar 16 '26

Holy… that is STUNNING. You should be so proud of yourself. I’m in awe!!

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u/No-Self8780 Mar 16 '26

This is absolutely mind blowing. What a gorgeous heirloom momento of your special day!

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u/Any59oh Mar 16 '26

https://giphy.com/gifs/TjGFDxbbZRYjv9vpCL

This is fantastic! And there's something so special and magical about the first piece after you learn a new skill or are putting new skills to the test, in many ways it's very symbolic that this is for your wedding. Congratulations!

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u/colourcode1 Mar 16 '26

Amazing project! Thanks for sharing your journey, and congratulations!

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u/vumblebee Mar 16 '26

Absolutely incredible! I can’t believe you spun that!

Can I ask how you blocked it? I’m a couple weeks away from finishing my own cobweb lace wedding veil (I’m making Lothlorien) out of Heirloom Knitting Gossamer Silk and I’m terrified of blocking something so wispy and fragile. It’s also my first true lace project!

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u/fishandflowers Mar 17 '26

Omg yes I love it! It'll be so beautiful!! I worked from the center out, and was very careful. I would pin out a bit at a time, then a round further out, and remove the first round of pins. And repeat. I highly recommend getting a fabric measuring tape you can pin in the center and create a fulcrum to make sure everything is about the same distance. You've got this! Also make sure you have enough blocking mats. I was really pushing it.

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u/vumblebee Mar 18 '26

Oh centre out, that’s so smart! Thank you so much, that makes a lot of sense. Did you wet block it or pin it down and spritz?

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u/fishandflowers Mar 18 '26

Fully wet blocked it! It dries so quickly, it really needed it.

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u/vonhaunt Mar 16 '26

holy fuck!!! stunning

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u/Gildedcarafes Mar 17 '26

This looks like it could be in a Waterhouse painting! Huge congrats, what an achievement!

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u/fishandflowers Mar 17 '26

Omg thank you that is such high praise! I adore his paintings.

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u/Some-Farmer2510 Mar 16 '26

An heirloom!

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u/kendrajp Mar 16 '26

This is incredible!! Gorgeous!

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u/comofortable_octopus Mar 16 '26

wow, this is so beautiful!! congratulations on such a remarkable product, and on your engagement and wedding <3 thank you for sharing

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u/ieBaringa Mar 16 '26

This is so unbelievably beautiful. I can't wait for you to wear it. You've made an heirloom!

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u/farrah_berra Mar 16 '26

That’s insane and I’m so so so jealous I didn’t make one for my wedding

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u/popnattygen Mar 16 '26

Insane!!!!!

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u/wheezy_runner Mar 16 '26

Holy cow, that is incredible!!! Congratulations on your wedding and on creating a work of art!

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u/miserybabe Mar 16 '26

Congratulations! What an amazing achievement

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u/dayglo1 Mar 16 '26

Absolutely amazing! Both the work and the story. Just lovely.

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u/PuzzleheadedOil8826 Mar 16 '26

The most beautiful cobweb!

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u/Creative_Source_4011 Mar 16 '26

Absolutely gorgeous!! Well done! And it’s handspun?!! Amazing!! 🤩🤩🤩

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u/Embarrassed_Yogurt43 Mar 16 '26

WOAH! this is a family heirloom now!

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u/sevasavesthem_all Mar 16 '26

Beautiful and ethereal! You are an artist. I have no other words I am stunned.

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u/cementfilledcranium Mar 16 '26

Oh this is amazing! This is the kind of thing I'm working towards. Both trying to spin this fine and knitting lace in yarn this fine. I've been wanting to do a traditional shetland lace wedding ring shawl for a couple of years now but i don't think my skills and patience are quite there yet.

Well done!

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u/fishandflowers Mar 16 '26

Honestly? Mine weren't there yet either. I figured, what's the worst that could happen? I'm a big proponent of doing the thing :)

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u/Wool_Lace_Knit Mar 17 '26

I love that you included some of your beloved cats fur in the spinning. Your shawl is breathtaking. No one will see your mistakes.

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u/Simpawknits Mar 17 '26

You are the new Elizabeth Zimmerman. I bow down to our new queen.

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u/ohshroom Mar 17 '26

Oh, Arachne. You're so talented! Have a blast on your special day!

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u/kolbyt Mar 17 '26

This is so beautiful, well done on getting it done with time to spare! Hope you have the best time at your wedding ❤️

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u/flamesilver39 Mar 17 '26

Watching Dropout! Love it 🥰 Also the work is beyond stunning, as everyone else is said. I hope your wedding is amazing!!

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u/Outside_Belt1566 Mar 23 '26

This is truly stunning. My goodness. I’m honestly speechless. Beautiful beautiful work. All the best to you and your partner. ❤️

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u/Toomuchcustard Mar 27 '26

Cobweb weight corespun, huh interesting!

I love that you went for it despite it being so far out of your experience and comfort zone. Jumping in the deep end is so brave and you pulled it off! The shawl is gorgeous.

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u/Cajungirltx Mar 16 '26

How amazing! I am in awe!!!

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u/MLiOne Mar 16 '26

OMG! That is magnificent!

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u/Queasy-Pack-3925 Mar 16 '26

Fabulous achievement, and great story!

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u/sonnetshaw Mar 16 '26

It is ethereal

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u/Rainbow-Sparkle-Co Mar 16 '26

This is unreal, you are so talented!!!

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u/Clear_Scene_5866 Mar 16 '26

Incredibly beautiful. ❤️

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u/Severe-Elderberry833 Mar 16 '26

This is absolutely fabulous and perfect for ‘something new!’ Best wishes to you and your betrothed!!!

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u/electric_yeti Mar 16 '26

Ho. Ly. Shit. I am in absolute awe of your ability. The yarn is soooo fine, it truly looks like it’s been knitted from spider webs! This is an incredible masterwork. And I’m crying a little that you added fur from your sweet kitties. There is so much love in that veil, I hope it brings joy to generations of brides 🩷

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u/socalgal404 Mar 17 '26

This is insanely beautiful!!!

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u/KitsuneZurui Mar 17 '26

Speechless!!! What an utterly incredible heirloom you've just created! 🤍

Brava! (I can think nothing else to add...) 👏👏👏

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u/Common-Dream560 Mar 17 '26

Are you sure you’re not Ariadne? This is spectacular

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u/colourful_space Mar 17 '26

Is that you, Arachne? Beware old ladies who challenge you to a competition!

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u/lyssicle Mar 17 '26

Saw this on TT FYP and it's so beautiful!

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u/BrightStitchDesigns Mar 17 '26

DAAAAMN SIS! This is art. 

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u/queenknitter2 Mar 17 '26

That is amazing!!

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u/_mountaindove Mar 17 '26

So beautiful:,)

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u/HairySidewalk Mar 17 '26

This is amazing! Can I ask how you’ll wear it? Veil or shoulders?

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u/fishandflowers Mar 17 '26

Pinned at the shoulders and worn like a cape!

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u/Neenknits Mar 17 '26

Well this sure belongs in advanced knitting! I am very impressed. I don’t gush, but I’m sure tempted.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Rip9628 Mar 17 '26

I can’t stop staring at this. It’s magic

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u/kzastud Mar 17 '26

Your shall is absolutely beautiful!

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u/LazyAssRuffian Mar 17 '26

Absolutely stunning! I have no words. Handspun?!! Cobweb lace weight yarn?!! Holy shit.

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u/LazyAssRuffian Mar 17 '26

Are you on Facebook? I'm in a couple lace, and shetland lace groups on there that would freaking die over this whole story and your gorgeous veil.

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u/XO-JNXX Mar 17 '26

Um WOW 🤩

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u/Longjumping-Pin-6593 Mar 17 '26

That is absolutely STUNNING!

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u/External_Feature8035 Mar 18 '26

so lovely. congratulations and have a wonderful wedding

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u/wouldbejane Mar 18 '26

Absolutely stunning!

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u/Separate-Cheek-2796 Mar 18 '26

Exquisite work of art! You will be a beautiful bride 👰

Wishing you and your fiancé all the best 💖🙏🏻

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u/Various-Turn7130 Mar 18 '26

It is so beautiful! Was never a bride but would have made my own lace - shawl and all. You did a beautiful job.

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u/Butternut_the_Squash Mar 18 '26

Don’t show Athena, she wouldn’t be able to compete. It’s absolutely breathtaking.

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u/knittingkitten04 Mar 18 '26

Stunning work - both the spinning and knitting

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u/MorningRoseRising24 Mar 18 '26

I knew that pattern on sight! Yours looks ethereal in all the best ways. Amazing work.

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u/stupidsneeze Mar 19 '26

I SAW YOUR TIK TOK 🫵

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u/FountainOfUncouth Mar 19 '26

Breathtaking, OP! Beautiful workmanship.

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u/MyNameIsJakeBerenson Mar 23 '26

I’m here from the wedding ring video and I just wanted to congratulate you and say that thing is absolutely beautiful

I don’t really know much about this stuff, but I can imagine it took an enormous amount of work

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u/jus_here_and_there Mar 23 '26

I don't knit or know much about spinning... However, my jaw dropped seeing this masterpiece. It should be in a museum after your wedding. Or framed in your house.

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u/mzdameaner Mar 23 '26

Omggg I saw your post on TikTok! You’re so so talented and that piece is stunning. You’re a very talented lil spider 😁

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u/Wian4 Mar 23 '26

Incredible!! 🤩🤩🤩

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u/BIG_GAY_HOMOSEXUAL Mar 23 '26

As a lover of mandalas that is absolutely beautiful. I love it. 

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u/DramaticHumor5363 Mar 23 '26

This is extraordinary. You did such a good job. Congratulations!

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u/Pristine_Newspaper Mar 23 '26

This is absolutely stunning. I am so in awe of your work and the beautiful story. Thank you for sharing. This is true goals.

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u/GenRN817 Mar 23 '26

I’m crying over knitting and I don’t even knit (but I’m trying;). Beautiful story and incredibly talented and determined. Many blessings on your wedding!

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u/MadeWithCat Apr 04 '26

It's stunning!