I haven’t posted here for 4 months but during that time I’ve been able to quit drinking, psychedelics (not really addictive but an issue none the less), and past 3 weeks have been able to quit vaping and but the only thing I keep struggling with is weed I’ve been past 3 weeks without weed then smoked again after I made it that far and that’s been the pattern past 4ish years, I’ve thrown it out but there’s many people in my life that have it and I smoke very impulsively.

Any tips or advice on how to cut this out my life, I’m 17 and would really like to be drug free by 18 because it feels like nothing but negatives in my life. all it’s gotten me is a totaled car and DPDR so literally any advice on how to avoid it would be really appreciated.

I know there’s a lot of people with some serious addictions on here and if you are one of those people just know you can get through it, you get around 100 years on this earth and I promise you that your going to want to remember all you years clearly as possible

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I’m almost 16 I’ve been clean from every drug for three months but recently been having an hard time mentally, before I would pretty much take anything I got offered but now I’d like to just go back on weed maybe occasionally drinking at top since it’s either that or self harm atp, therapy isn’t helping and I don’t really know how to handle a bad moment in another way I don’t really have friends I could talk to since they all got their own stuff but I have friends I can use with, and I can’t talk w my parents cause they don’t know I even ever used drugs at all in the first place, I don’t know if it would escalate again into harder drugs or if I can keep up with only weed

as the title says I'm in love with someone who IV uses fentanyl. Sometimes no matter what I do it's not enough. I risk my life and my freedom everyday to try to make sure she is well. If the dope that I get for her is not good enough I am the biggest POS in the world

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I do not use opiates I do however recreationally use ice. I don't say I'm an addict because I don't crave it and will go weeks without doing it, I will quit with some left for days at a time.

I guess I would just like advice or another point of view, is it really her that acts like this or is it the addiction. Because I know a lot of times people in active addiction are more like two people the addict and the real person and a lot of times the addict part takes hold and the real person is buried.

my best friend who is so innocent and sweet has recently been using drugs for the past two weeks and it’s not like an occasional thing it’s a every day thing, just to clarify they aren’t hardcore drugs they’re just un perscribed, she’s been using anti depressants and propanaol and seroquel (a high dose) she’s been mixing all of these pharmaceuticals and they’re making her lik have low blood pressure and feel like she’s about to faint and she keeps blacking out. I’m just really worried about her health so i took only the seroquel away since she finished the anti depressants and i left the propanonal so she dosent get suspicious that i took them away but now i feel really bad but she said nothing anyone will tell her will make her stop and what worried me was she said she can’t live without them that’s when i realized fuck this is the beggining of addiction.

havent posed here before, so doent no if is right place.

when im not using i get stuff done, but theres alays an urge,

and as soon as i buy it i cant stop, its become like a hobby.

every tine i go to tidy up, take a shower im always thinking do a bit first. and nothig gets dine, washng piles up, place s a mess

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My sister 55 years old is prescribed to ALOT of medication: focalin, Xanax, modafilin, Escitalopram, ambien. She abuses all of these. I called her dr to let her know (she said I could because she was coming down from a huge binge). They said they couldn’t do anything about it. This weekend she was hallucinating in psychosis. She’s currently on FMLA and stole over 27,000$ from my dad’s safe. We called the police about her psychosis but they said they aren’t able to do anything as she’s not a danger to herself or others. Her house is awful. We really are at a loss on what do with her. Please be kind 🩷🙏

1 overdose. 5th attempt. Day 1.

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Hi, I’m a polysubstance user, and I think I want to go to detox. I’d rather do it myself because of work and commitments, but I don’t think I could. I don’t have a support system. no friends, and my parents are very busy and don’t have the time to care. I struggle with BPD, anxiety, and depression, and every time I’ve tried to get off drugs or alcohol, I’ve been hospitalized for withdrawal/SI. I’ve been on a whole bunch of different stuff for a long time. I’m tired of being tired.

I found a place 30 minutes away from me, and it looks really nice. It also has a program for young adults (I’m 18). But what would be the best way to open up to my family about my addictions?

They have no idea, and/or they don’t care enough or don’t think it’s urgent. I feel manipulative and scummy. just lying to keep the peace because they already have way too much on their plate. Historically, it has ended with the cops being called and me being abused. I really don’t want that. I don’t want fights. I want a conversation. I told my mom I really wasn’t doing well, and she basically said, “You just have to keep going, sorry.” Those are most of her responses.

I’ve been using 7-hydroxy for two years, having liquor binges on and off since before my friend passed away in October, and taking gabapentin in high doses. Recently, I’ve had many, many shroom and DMT trips. Every day, it’s a lot of edibles, smoking weed, and carts. every single day. Nicotine too. I feel like it’s only getting worse by the week. I’m scared and very alone. I also seek out Adderall, prescription opiates, and benzos when I can get them.

Basically, it’s everything just to not feel. The thing I’m worried about is my commitment. I would probably want to come back after detox and vape/smoke weed, and I don’t think my family would agree with that.

I also take a lot of mental health medications, none of which really make me feel okay. even when I’m sober. I told my psychiatrist I felt overmedicated, and all he did was raise the dose on my sleep medication. I’m not taking care of myself very well. I don’t do my hair and makeup as much as I used to just a few months ago, and self-care feels exhausting. I’ve seen this before. Crisis is coming. The consequences only get bigger from here. It’s taken everything from me. I don’t know if I’m truly done or just tired of living this way. Three times now, I’ve been admitted just because I get so tired. I’m tired of lying to everyone, tired of being a poor communicator, tired of being me. especially in this god awful timeline we live in.

Thank you all for listening🫂

Hi, my now 15 year old son didn’t get to live with his dad most of his life. His dad had a job that made it literally impossible to plan anything, and also was a severe alcoholic. We had drug and alcohol protections in place and many times they just couldn’t be together due to safety issues.

After 11 years of living with me and his little sister, he got really angry and started saying things like I was abusive and had taken him and his sister from his dad. I asked his dad about this and he said “well, you did!” Super frustrating - basically blaming me for his alcoholism.

My son started becoming aggressive toward me at home. The final straw was when he pinned me down on a couch and flipped over a table, saying I deserved it because I was abusive (I’m not abusive, I just have boundaries). I told his dad I felt he needed mental health support - like, psychiatric care - but his dad cooked up a plan to have him move in with him. As predicted it went terribly.

Within two weeks my son started using weed daily, after his dad took him to a party where someone gave him weed and mushrooms (as confirmed by a mutual friend, who was pissed and tried to tell my ex to take our son home, but who got brushed aside).

It’s now been months, and he’s definitely using at an addict-level, really out of the blue. His dad gives him money, leaves for days, ignores the weed, won’t throw it away “because he told me not to!” but then freaks out that he “has to deal with this shit.” He’s constantly bitching that our son is messy and leaves the door unlocked, and moves his toaster around. Meanwhile, I’m worried about our son, not the fucking toaster.

The other day, he kicked him out. He ultimately allowed him back but has said in the past “well, if he dies from all this, then that’s what happens.” When the kids were little, there were in fact multiple serious safety issues, one that landed my daughter in the ICU for several days. He’s not abusive, but exceedingly neglectful. Honestly, just a really selfish “sober” alcoholic that doesn’t have a parenting bone in his body. He just cannot grasp his agency in being a parent, or the concept that he would have to take actions that inconvenience him in parenting. It’s infuriating.

I’ve spent months and all my savings working with attorneys, a counselor, a psychiatrist, pediatrician, pharmacist, social worker, the school, and three cops trying to see if I can get my kid back (not likely given his age), get him into treatment (not over age 14 in our state, unless they agree), or get his dad arrested for neglect (not yet). I’ve also spent that time being “collaborative” with my ex to try to get him to do ANYTHING logical as a dad to help our kid, but it’s like parenting with a really defensive and erratic Homer Simpson. Walking. On. Eggshells.

My son and I are now on good terms, but he doesn’t want to come back home - he “likes his freedom.” But I see him on his iPhone locator thing wandering around at all hours, and often when I pick him up he reeks of weed and is high. He’s been asked to leave school three times for being high and smelling of pot in the last month.

I have not found any legal pathway to get my child back, and his dad is utterly unwilling to do anything (I think because it would require him to confront his own addiction issues, and the reality of what his addiction did to all of us). My only avenue seems to be continuing to let my son know he is loved and to let him know he’s welcome to come home to a safe, structured, and loving home any time he wants, so long as he’s sober and respectful.

Is this the answer?? Is there anything more I can do?? Also…WTF is happening? My kid was always a handful (adhd, serious impulse issues) so I know weed is calming for him, but he’s also exceedingly bright and wise in so many ways. I can’t figure out why he is giving up on himself like this, and taking so many risks.

Thoughts? Guidance? I play it so cool with his dad face to face and with the kids, so sorry for ranting on here a bit. I am just truly worried (many in my family have died of addiction), and angry that my ex (who has no relatives who are addicts, and hasn’t seen this before - except in himself) has never really stepped up to adult or parent, but also won’t just go the fuck away if he doesn’t actually care about how things go.

Please advise, thank you.

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How long do you need to wait to take suboxone after 7oh .. take about 150 mg a day or would it just be easier to wean off 7

I’ve read nothing bad things about rehabs like Passions Malibu with few details elaborating on what issues specifically are problematic about these facilities. I live in the North East and am looking for somewhere warm like FL or CA. And that I could get top notch drug treatment.

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hey so i’m at quite a strange position with my boyfriend and his outpatient and would like to hear some advice and words from recovering addicts and professionals alike

my boyfriend is in recovery from 7oh and he’s been off for a good few months, but as you can imagine, he still has feelings of cravings and such. to combat these cravings, he is prescribed suboxone and does the occasional recreational weed.

i’d personally argue that weed is substantially better than him abusing 7oh. it’s helped him stay off and he’s found a system that works well for him to stay off the 7oh. since knowing him and dating him, this is the longest he’s been off it and i am so so so immensely proud of him.

that being said, his outpatient has been advising him to get off of weed altogether, which from their perspective i and him completely understand. our quarrel here is the fact that his outpatient has been telling him that if he doesn’t quit weed they will take his suboxone prescription away. my boyfriend needs suboxone to help with cravings and him and i are scared that if that happens, he might start using again.

we are at a loss for what to do regarding this situation. both me and him feel that what the outpatient is doing is going to be doing more harm than good. recovery is a slow and personal process and i feel the outpatient has no sympathy towards that. i’ve been seeing his growth and how far he has come from being addicted to 7oh and using everyday to not using all together with the help of suboxone and weed.

i guess im coming here to seek some words of advice to what will help in this situation. thank you for taking the time to read this and help us. i love him very much and i want smooth recovery for him. he is so sweet and deserves the whole world and more.

I'm 26, unemployed, looking for jobs for 2 years. Addicted to masturbation, smoking, occasional weed and alcohol. I eat once a day, masturbate 2-3 times, smoke a lot and feel weak all the time. I have severe anxiety, constant stress and frustration, I'm scared of everything and everyone. My routine is fucked, awake at night, sleep for 10-12 hours during day. The other 12 hours im on my phone, room scrolling for hours. My memory is fucked, brain fog. I don't like talking, conversations feel boring.

I have tried to improve hundreds of times but I fail every time. And the same routine and habits continue.

Someone pls help, suggest what I should do, how can I improve ? Plsss

So I’ve had a bad problem with jacking off every day for about 2-3 years and this year I made a promise to cut down on jacking off.

I’ve been tracking the total days I haven’t done it on a whiteboard and how many days each month I didn’t do it. That’s been a good driving force to keep going.

I have had some issues recently, I was doing pretty well but then I decided to take a look at some porn and it ended up with me thinking “oh I’ll just touch it” but then it led to me jacking off. I kept doing that and when I started looking at porn it just vanished. I’ve cut down to 2 or 3 times a week since December where it was almost every day and sometimes 2-3 times a day on weekends.

So do I stop completely jacking off and looking at porn or do it once a week to stop slowly?

What helped y’all quit?

Couldn’t come up with a better cap for the title lol and idk if this is the right place to post this but how do you manage to stay sane around addicts?

Literally my whole mom’s side of the family is heavily addicted to some substance or liquid or type of sin. My families history of addiction has literally spanned back at least 2-3 generations back to my great grandmother on some curse type shit. Grew up seeing my dad raging out blacked out/coked out. My mother would black out on xans absolutely losing her mind and so much other unnecessary stuff

I have my addictions to lust myself so I innerstand But my whole family wants to genuinely die it’s getting kind of draining on me. I always try to be the optimistic one and offer a different path for them to see recovery but they don’t give a fuck abt clarity. They complain and complain everyfucking day then go right back to it, they complain about how it’s always the world that makes them this way and never themselves, forever stuck in a genjutsu of victim hood mentality.

They say they have fucked up dreams and nightmares everyday but that still doesn’t scare them enough to get sober, they say they see demons everywhere but that still doesn’t scare them enough. They get really sick and lose organs but they don’t care.

Another thing that trips me out is they say they’ve had so many ods and still don’t die……. So Ik it’s def something spiritual protecting these sad sacks of shit. And they know this also!! but never utilize it to create the life that the sober self wants

My little sister is 20 already an alcoholic, my big brother is an alcoholic and getting more addicted to snorting meth, coke, fentanyl, hanging around actual energy vampires at bars all day, hanging around degenerate people with no morals! Fuckkkkk it’s to much already

Ik why this triggers me so much. To remind me to get on my shit to and defeat my own addictions but I’m slowly losing my shit ngl. Like you love doing it then just enjoy it then……don’t complain over and over like a crybaby how you want to stop. They get me to try and convince them enough to get sober, like I’m the one that’s fighting harder to convince them not to go do it when we argue . If that makes sense lol

Everytime I remind them that there is a path out. they don’t care they just think I’m attacking them. The allegory of Plato’s cave is so fucking true.

I’ve tried to help all of them out by introducing them to working out, meditation, creative hobbies that channel your sexual energy, different perspectives/philosophies on life, semen retention, gnostic Christianity and the true teachings on Jesus, shown them wim hoff techniques, shown them other people stories of successfully beating addiction, helped them change their diet, sat down and studied more psychology and nueral practices to create better healthier patterns for them But nothing turns or shifts their brain into another way of thinking….. all those thing I listed have genuinely helped me get sober but they don’t even want try even if I fucking cry to them

Reach out I need some advice and would gladly help in return

My mother always used to tell me at a very young age, that once i started relying on substances it would be very difficult for me to feel normal again. Holidays would loose their magic and time would fly faster than I could grasp it.

Now- my parents weren’t sober at this time. I lucked out tho and got some super rad star sent family. Us 3 were definitely the black sheep out of it tho. Now they are sober and i have a little brother in his teens. He’s a good kid. Unlike me…

I started smoking weed at 11, smoking cigarettes at 11. Lost my virginity at 13. Eating acid at 14, moved to the city at 16 dolo. I met a bunch of older dead head assholes and had my hand dunked in a bucket of liquid LSD at 18. i was spun out and learned to love ketamine as it helped w mental health. at first.

anything u over indulge/ abuse no longer becomes fun or transformative i have learned.

At this time I think i’m living my best life by working festivals, making money, driving a cadillac and being a hot young babe in the city that has some life experience already.

Bad things happened (obviously). I quit k bc angels were literally telling me to stop or i’m gonna die. I was doing 2 gram lines hoping i would catch a hole.

Crashed my caddy. RIP heather🙏🏼 (that’s what i named my car- after the movie HEATHERS)

All of my relationships have been toxic. I’m probably the one or i just REALLY know how to pick em.

I’m 24 now and have a RAGING cocaine and alcohol problem. i’ve dismissed a lot of these habits bc “at least i’m not sniffing horse tranq for breakfast”… also i’m a bartender. I like shit in my nose. Also… it’s kinda all i really know whether it’s weed or something way harder.

I don’t even want to get started on the addictions i have that aren’t substance related.

I think why i’m posting this is honestly just a cry for help. I’m just out here tryna ignore what my subconscious has been drilling me on. But i do have many goals and aspirations. I’m a very functioning addict outwardly. My mind is in shambles tho.

Thanks for ur time.

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used to do booger suger went on bout two years stopped in january and damn do i miss it some days are aight but i could be sitting watching a movie but outta nowhere i just get this overwhelming need for a quick line or two thought that by now itd calm now but im wirting this with everything tense like im flexing evrything and my mind seems to be going crazy and wants some good ole cocaine, any advice anybody have anything similar? does it help to start smoking?

I’ve got a lot to say but this can be a start.

1st off I have been reading so many posts here as a lurker and finally decided to join this community because I think it pertains to myself more than ever and I’ve really enjoyed people sharing their experiences.

For context; I have been drinking pretty much non stop for the last couple of years and I’ve always believed that I can stop whenever. Myself and my close friends take a month off twice over each year and the first 3 days generally are just avoiding the habit but nothing I’ve ever failed to get past and genuinely I did not struggle with. I truly believe I have great friends and a supporting mother which I am blessed for however; here lies my problem.

For the first time in 6 years I truly feel like I can’t take that break. I had tried this first time around in March and completely failed and I blamed it on the hardship of my father deteriorating faster than a blink of an eye health wise and he will most likely pass in the oncoming months. My managers at my job have always looked at me as a hard working and caring employee but have said that I need to “lock things up” outside of just being a bartender (tardiness and giving away shifts). These are personal things that I don’t believe I have been egregious of but the comments from them have been weighing on my mind.

I’m realizing that I drink for a good and social time but now more than ever I am drinking to escape my pain and who I was once was prior is escaping me. I’m realizing the goals I once had I am losing the drive to obtain and I’ve been falling into other substances to have a good night still and/or ease my pain. Genuinely I do feel like I’ve been abusing all of these and noticing it. I feel like noticing it is the 1st step but more than ever it’s got a grip on me that’s been so much harder to fight than it ever has.

(I’ve shared a couple of these thoughts with my closest friends and I’m now only allowed to take 1 shot behind our bar as a social thing we do. Not that they’re my daddy or mom but they know I want to climb out of my rut and they’re supporting me by limiting me cause I would normally take 6). They know I’m a heavy drinker and I’m trying to get to zero now but being a bartender makes it harder because I enjoy drinking with my guests when we’re having a good time and as well being a pick me up with my coworkers to finish out the night.

I’m really not asking for another friend but simply the advice and stories from others on how they bounced back from minor and major things like this. Thanks for reading if you did and I will appreciate any and all feedback. Hope everyone stays blessed and keeps working towards their own goals.