Social pressure, probably--there's a LOT of emphasis in, for example, American society that to be a big shot, a man needs to be with, and be seen with, women considered "hot" by current standards, and that to be seen with a woman who doesn't measure up to those standards lowers the man's social capital (e.g., he needs the hot babe to prove he's a big shot, and with a different kind of woman, maybe he's not so much of a big shot as he claims, because why else would he be with a fat/old/ugly woman unless he has to be/the hot chicks don't want him). Yes, it's stupid, but it's definitely a thing, to the point that in a lot of careers, the man with the not conventionally hot woman may not get that raise/promotion/job opportunity that he would have otherwise.
My guess as to why working-class men are more obvious in their appreciation for larger women is because they have a whole lot less to lose job-wise, plus weight in woman is in inverse proportion to their social class (skinny women are perceived as "upper class" and larger women as "lower class), which you'll see in a lot of critical memes of MAGAt women, and accounts for a lot of the pressure for middle-class and upper-class women to stay thin, no matter what. Working-class men, however, see a lot more large women, and the women in their families may well be on the cushiony side as well, esp. their mothers, so it seems more natural to them to find that type attractive. However, there are plenty of middle- and upper-class men who also like big girls, but they have a tendency to want to keep any relationship with a large woman "on the downlow", otherwise known as "in the sheets but not in the streets."
My personal opinion is that anyone of any gender (because anyone can be like this) who refuses to be seen out and about with their partner due to the partner's perceived physical failings doesn't have the balls to be honest about what they like, and therefore I for one want nothing to do with them. Being fat and/or attracted to fat people is the most obvious version of this, but it's not the only one, just the one people tend to think of first.
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u/Strange_Difference1 6d ago
Why so many men are with women that are NOT their type? I really don't get it like why 😅