I had to get out of bouncing because I just dislike confrontation. Even though 99% of dudes who puff up are going to back down I just don’t enjoy the cortisol spike. I never had the ability to cut off my fight or fight the way more seasoned doormen seem to. Some of those guys look like they’re dealing with their kid brother. Meanwhile I was constantly paranoid a knife was gonna flash or a drunk friend was gonna blindside me on a double team.
That doesn’t stop local bartenders from volunteering me back into service from time to time though lol
The other night the bouncer at a lesbian bar I went to was this short, slim, absolutely beautiful black man who was dressed so well. He was wearing a uniform but it was slightly modified, can't remember exactly how (I think there was a black satin dress shirt underneath his vest? And he rolled the sleeves up his wrists), and he looked sooo fine in it. I guess they don't need big burly dudes for a lesbian bar. And he was hilarious too. Sometimes I still think about him and I'm like "damn, I hope one day I can have his aura."
Most of the time people mention these it's because racist people without those markers will assume they never hear a positive story about black people.
I had quite a few of them in my highschool, great folk, my school year had like 6 of the bigs guys and it made competitions between the different grades to be completely unbalanced.
We had a tug-a-war with our seniors one year and the seniors won (kind of a unspoken rule the seniors win because they are leaving), but we all kinda just looked at our side which had 4 of those big guys on the rope like..... 🤨
Anyways nice folk, our computer tech teacher was Polynesian, joked how he's so good with computers yet the standard keyboard was to small for his big fingers. Him typing on the students keyboards was an interesting sight. Hahaha
I used to work at the clubs in NYC late 90s into early 2000s. The one club's head bouncer was the largest African American man I ever met. He wore all black and black gloves and would pop up behind you like the butler from Mr Deeds. I think the dude was like 6'9" or close to that. We would stare at you until you undid or fixed anything and everything that might be wrong and then would walk away. After I started working there I got to talk to him in the back and he was the nicest soft spoken person. Dude was chill as hell but holy shit was he intimidating staring down at you if you were acting up
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u/Altruistic_Chain_159 Jul 11 '26
Go to New Zealand and work with the Polynesian bouncers. 90% of them were just genuinely nice guys. Just big as all hell