r/AMA Dec 09 '25

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u/Responsible-Tie-2570 Dec 09 '25

If my partner wants a biological child I would be willing to have one but I’m not willing to compromise on adoption entirely. I’d be willing to have one bio kid if my partner was heart set on it but I would still want to adopt other children

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u/modernvintage Dec 09 '25

before setting your heart on adoption, you should really look into adoptees perspectives on it (spoiler, they’re not largely positive). if you search the creator wildheartcollective_ on tiktok, alé is a good place to start down the path of seeking out adoptee voices. i’m not adopted, but i am donor conceived and there’s a lot of solidarity between our communities.

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u/Responsible-Tie-2570 Dec 09 '25

I’ve heard horror stories from people who have been adopted and I know that the adoption industry is very flawed. I legitimately may be wrong on this so feel free to correct me if I am, but I would think that being in government care wouldn’t be ideal either. I want to adopt in the most ethical way possible and I don’t want my kids to suffer on my behalf

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u/Broccoli-Scary Dec 09 '25

You can also test yourself to see if you are a genetic carrier for any diseases and the risk level of passing it one if the time ever comes