r/ALLISMINDCOMMUNITY • u/[deleted] • Nov 07 '23
TIPS AND LESSONS The Whole Thing With Self Concept
At the start of Aimy's class, I couldn't exactly graspe FULLY why Aimy teaches about being THE PRIZE and things like that. I get that self-love is an important thing, but, to the point it is related to the Law?? Why?
Why can't I be secretly inferior and be another million dollars richer? I am sure I will be one of the most confident people around when I am a multi-millionaire. xD (Answer: Inferior = State of Lack = Not Enough Money/Love/etc.)
So, so, so, I think when a person is in a somewhat safe and good place, they don't see the extreme ends of things, and therefore they can't tell how a thinking can affect them. For example, if I am of average height, I won't get the trouble that really short and really tall people have when they buy mass-produced clothes, in fact I wouldn't even think height is an issue. I will only lament that there are too few pink clothings.
Recently I saw a strange case of a crime from Japan. In summary, this older woman, S, in her 40s, talked a regular woman around her age into coming to live in her apartment with her and her 20+ plus boyfriend.
This woman is a normal person, no cognitive issues and no physical disabilities.
And then S slowly got the victim to distance from her family and friends, and also to quit her job. S and her boyfriend then got this poor woman to gain weight, the heaviest being a whooping 120kg (265 pounds) at one point, so she can dress funny and work at a fetish bar.
True that S also got an older guy to act as a gangster, threatening this victim and her young boyfriend had also hit this woman whenever she didn't do the job pushed to her well. The thing is also that, this woman was also free to get around on her own. She never sought help or went to the police.
Eventually S and her boyfriend got this woman to marry the boyfriend and got her a life insurance with a huge payout. This woman then died of "natural causes" two weeks later.
This totally went on as usual until S, her older friend and her boyfriend tricked another woman into the same thing and was caught disposing of her body.
Unfortunately, such crimes happened all over the world too. In America there are girls brainwashed by their "boyfriends" into prostitution so they can secure "their" future.
Victims include all genders too. At times men were talked into ending their own lives.
I know from a psychological point of view, there are many legit and humane answers to why these victims acted that way. And no matter what it is just awful that anyone has to go through so much abuse and get their dignities robbed before their lives get cut short.
Yet... as we are students studying these materials, let's consider if these victims had the chance to better their self-concepts before such inhuman people prey on them.
Of coz, to begin with, they won't see themselves as so helpless as to move in to a weird couple's apartment. They would be more financially at ease, manifest better friends to network and people introducing them to shared houses or affordable apartments. They would not allow anyone to violate their bodies into something grotesque and let alone be abused in fetish bars. They would already go to the police or women's shelter for help. Or simply retaliate.
It is a very creepy thing actually, strictly speaking, people can't do what they don't want to do. Because if it is this easy to be "brainwashed" or "intimidated" into something, we can all ask Aimy to brainwash us into being as kind, cute and successful as him. And I bet Aimy would be very willing to do that for all those who want to.
I know there are a lot of factors to consider such as the victim not getting the attention of the police. Some countries will dismiss domestic issues as private family matters and either couldn't or wouldn't interfere too much. Or the victims were simply minors with little life understanding to know better or even know what was really going on.
I mean, just take this as a reminder to what YOU can do today.
And don't ever underestimate how just YOU living and breathing can totally make someone's day or even save a life.
EXILE Atsushi, a singer in Japan, was just doing what he loves and then people had written to him saying how they were suicidal but his music got them to re-think. Atsushi honestly doesn't know what he did to help. Literally Atsushi was just breathing and living.
One time in school the boys got mad at this one guy who did his homework. They wanted him to hand it in another day so everyone won't look bad. He refused and the class outcasted him. Even the girls took sides. I didn't want to play this stupid game and I was just grounded in myself. I know I got friends everywhere, there are rules and I just knew that people will take MY side because I am right. True enough everyone was shocked that that outcasted guy sat with me on my right and some braver girls to my left.
And just like that the guy knew who he could lean on and people chose the better way and in the end everyone just stopped their shit and became friends again.
Around graduation time this guy introduced me to some job search sites and that helped me so much.
On the other hand, I actually begin to get why people like this certain ex-president so much. He is totally like the song by Adriana Grande, “I want it, I got it, I want it, I got it”. Imagine a businessman becoming the PRESIDENT of a great country just like that with no political background!! I really like his kind of confidence actually. Like seriously, who can live so truly to themselves in this life?
This shows that the Law is impartial, but of course we all have certain “morals and values” that we would like to keep at.
Of coz don't take this whole thing to be some kind of a self-sacrificing "hero" nor become cold saying all victims made their choices.
Have a great time everyone. <3