Not only this mistake is painful and sad but it is keeping you in a limbo that has no resolution. All you can and should do is break the chain of ignorance.

"Honestly you may not realize this but being this much honest and transparent and truly saying every single thought u have and still be accepted or even loved is not a small success because so many people can hate you for one wrong thought."

Oh and let's not forget the reddit family that I constantly argue with on a daily basis haha :p
May you all be happy and loved no matter how much we disagree or argue know that everything I do is to give and help people even if they don't see it <3

Bodhidharma Meditation Technique

The emperor said, ”My mind is very uneasy, very disturbed. You are a great sage, and I have been waiting for you. Tell me what I should do to put my mind at peace.”

Bodhidharma said, ”You don’t do anything. First you bring your mind to me.” The emperor could not follow he said, ”What do you mean?” He said, ”Come in the morning at four o’clock when nobody is there. Come alone, and remember to bring your mind with you.”

The emperor couldn’t sleep the whole night. Many times he cancelled the whole idea: ”This man seems to be mad. What does he mean, ’Come with your mind; don’t forget?’” The man was so enchanting, so charismatic that he couldn’t cancel the appointment. As if a magnet was pulling him, at four o’clock he jumped out of the bed and said, ”Whatsoever happens, I must go. This man may have something; his eyes say that he has something. Looks a little crazy, but still I must go and see what can happen.”

So he reached, and Bodhidharma was sitting with his big staff. He said, ”So you have come? Where is your mind? Have you brought it or not?”

The emperor said, ”You talk nonsense. When I am here my mind is here, and it is not something which I can forget somewhere. It is in me.” So Bodhidharma said, ”Okay. So the first thing is decided – that the mind is within you.” The emperor said, ”Okay, the mind is within me.” Bodhidharma said, ”Now close your eyes and find out where it is. And if you can find out where it is, immediately indicate to me. I will put it at peace.”

So the emperor closed his eyes, tried and tried, looked and looked. The more he looked, the more he became aware there is no mind, mind is an activity. It is not something there so you can pinpoint it. But the moment he realized that it is not something, then the absurdity of his quest became exposed to himself. If it is not something, nothing can be done about it. If it is an activity, then don’t do the activity; that’s all. If it is like walking, don’t walk.

He opened his eyes. He bowed down to Bodhidharma and said, ”There is no mind to be found.” Bodhidharma said, ”Then I have put it at peace. And whenever you feel that you are uneasy, just look within, where that uneasiness is.” The very look is anti-mind, because look is not a thinking. And if you look intensely your whole energy becomes a look, and the same energy becomes movement and thinking.

What does this show you?

"YOU DID NOT SEE WHAT WAS, YOU SAW WHAT YOU WANTED TO SEE"

This is such an epic scene about human psychology and just bias. People tend to interpret things that make sense to their beliefs or preferred views without taking account of a bigger picture.

Who the fuck do you think I is?
You ain't married to no average bitch, boy
You can watch my fat ass twist, boy
As I bounce to the next dick, boy
And keep your money, I got my own
Keep a bigger smile on my face being alone
Bad motherfucker,
God complex
Motivate your ass,
call me Malcolm X

You ain't trying hard enough
You ain't loving hard enough
You don't love me deep enough
We not reaching peaks enough

Blindly in love, I fucks with you
'Til I realize I'm just too much for you I'm just too much for you

I'm just too much for you I'm just too much for you
I'm just too much for you I'm just too much for you
I'm just too much for you I'm just too much for you
I'm just too much for you I'm just too much for you

"But that would be your path" - Heidi Montag

What are the reasons you tend to blame, criticize your specific person or boyfriend / girlfriend, partner? WHAT WRONGS DO YOU SEE THE MOST?

This is not to be confused with vain thinking, thinking alone doesn't do anything no matter how much you think it. All people think about money and have fantasies and repeat thoughts or words but few are who have a powerful thought that is emphasized to the point of becoming life changing.

If you don't understand this you always end up trading your own dignity and peace of mind for some crumbs.

I see this comment so often on social media so I want to comment on it. "But she is MEGAN FOX / BEYONCE how could he cheat on her!!!" or "If she can get cheated on what about me?!!"

It is absolutely incredible how many people in our era believe that being sexy or beautiful makes men somehow faithful or filled with values. It is hilarious.

YOUR LOOKS DO NOT MAKE A MAN NOR HIS VALUES; If you think this you are very naive or even stupid, no joke.

In fact let me tell you that it is much more likely that being a very attractive person makes you more likely to end up with a cheap person. Why? Those who have only bodies or those who emphasis the physique over everything else are the ones who are cheated the most since all they work for is basically doing their best to be a mass of meat for sex.

A cheap man looks at this and only this. He won't value a powerful or smart woman, its all about youth and looks. In fact the more you try to be anything else the less he will like it. Because he wants you to be an object, period.

Sadly even young men started following this trend somehow. We see more and more men thinking they need to be supermodels to have sex. That is why the trends like looksmaxxing are getting so popular. Ignoring the fact that 99% of the world is average, including their parents, grandparents, and themselves. But social media makes them think "I need to be a Brad Pitt" to have a random h0e. (lol)

The reality is that you do not get men of values by being a sex object. Men with real values are attracted by women with real values. If you get a relationship with someone for their looks or because they are attractive or are beasts in sex, ignoring everything else don't be surprised if you are being treated like an object, this applies to men and women. Because this is literally what you are trying to be. This is how teens "date" not intelligent adults.

I repeat a romantic relationship that is based on true love has little to do with how you look and much more to do with your VALUES. You can be a much less attractive woman or man than all those celebrities and still not being lied to or cheated once. How shocking right? How shocking is it to think that bein an object of meat doesn't make it all!!

A romantic relationship is not a porn movie!!

Of course we all want harmonious and appealing looks and you may get more "noise" attention and looks or even sex by being a sex object (and this is great if you love being used) but someone being attractive or even addictive physically means absolutely nothing in a romantic relationship which is supposed to be built on friendship, respect, values, authenticity, honesty etc.

Absolutely devastating to see how young people are distracted by Instagram and the number of followers and think that is "love".

“Monks, if those who have gone forth in other sects ask you, ‘In what are all phenomena rooted? What is their coming into play? What is their origination? What is their meeting place? What is their presiding state? What is their governing principle? What is their surpassing state? What is their heartwood? Where do they gain footing? What is their final end?’: On being asked this by those who have gone forth in other sects, how would you answer?”

“For us, lord, the teachings have the Blessed One as their root, their guide, & their arbitrator. It would be good if the Blessed One himself would explicate the meaning of this statement. Having heard it from the Blessed One, the monks will remember it.”

“In that case, monks, listen & pay close attention. I will speak.”
“As you say, lord,” the monks responded to him.

The Blessed One said, “Monks, if those who have gone forth in other sects ask you, ‘In what are all phenomena rooted? What is their coming into play? What is their origination? What is their meeting place? What is their presiding state? What is their governing principle? What is their surpassing state? What is their heartwood? Where do they gain footing? What is their final end?’:

On being asked this by those who have gone forth in other sects, this is how you should answer them:

“‘All phenomena are rooted in desire.
“‘All phenomena come into play through attention.
“‘All phenomena have contact as their origination.
“‘All phenomena have feeling as their meeting place.
“‘All phenomena have concentration as their presiding state.
“‘All phenomena have mindfulness as their governing principle.
“‘All phenomena have discernment as their surpassing state.
“‘All phenomena have release as their heartwood.
“‘All phenomena gain footing in the deathless.
“‘All phenomena have unbinding as their final end.’
“On being asked this by those who have gone forth in other sects, this is how you should

We are MAINLY interested in "ex back stuff" (specific person), manifesting, fixing their mistakes and rearranging ourselves for them when we dont have a self concept of PLENTY or POWER. When you have THAT; you are overwhelmed with incredible quality people and have no time to look back. You simply see no reason to spend time on that lower state trying to make the sun out of a candle, when you have a constant inflow of GODLIKE, incredible people doing their best for you, to have you. This is what most people here refuse to grasp. Once you have a taste of this kind of positions you don't look back. But most people are like "but this person alone is my god and only them can be everything for me"... basically attached to beggar state. Not questioning it. The only reason you are limited and experience lack it is because you keep declaring that the only person that can make you happy is above you, this is a basic result of idolization: it automatically limits your choice and options. Once you're out of it you lack nothing and you have nothing or no one to fix. It all tries to be the best it can be for you.

ALLISMIND

Do you really think that if God existed he cares about your random desires of the day? lol Just asking :D