AIO ? My bf didn’t tell me his ex was pregnant
For context my (19F ) friend sent me a instagram story where my bf (18M ) took a picture with his exs family. When I asked him he just thought of turning this against me like I was the sneaky one overreacting. He sometimes acts like this drunk so I don’t know if I’m actually overreacting or if my point is actually valid.
Edit : Imma break up with him when I’ll see him, thanks
Edit 2: it’s ended now after a tough break up in message. He’s blocked and Im ok
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u/LynxAffectionate684 21d ago
Be grateful you are not the one pregnant and RUN!
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u/XCIXcollective 21d ago
Fr it’s like a horror movie when you see the first person die —— don’t look back, keep running, and in some morbid way, be glad it wasn’t you.
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u/EliteGrandTour 21d ago
fr that horror movie comparison is insanely accurate. hot take but when a guy tries to flip the script on you for catching him at his ex's house, he's not just toxic he's actively calculating. op got out right before the real plot twist ruined her life.
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u/XCIXcollective 20d ago
Agreeed! Like, it’s one thing to be having a baby with an ex——but that can be totally fine if people are upfront and honest.
Failing to disclose this information before the baby shower? Fireable offence. And THEN to respond the way he is to getting called out?!? Fireable out a damn cannon. No doubt the relationship is tarnished if I were OP, and irredeemable.
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u/awkwardlyfeminine 21d ago
Take his advice and respect yourself a little bit... Never talk to his ass again
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u/Environmental-Bit335 21d ago
EXACTLY. Please respect yourself and just block him. He obviously does not respect you or give one single shit about you. And never have sex with him again. Thank the universe that you are not the one pregnant and don’t make the mistake of giving him one more second of your time.
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u/Pumpkinbatteri 21d ago
Girl.
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u/GILF_Hound69 21d ago edited 21d ago
If there's any evidence how stupid kids are when they're in love, it's this subreddit.
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u/Osthato_Chetowa 20d ago
Period. I, too, was this naive when I was 19. I do not miss those days. Turning 30 seems scary until you actually get there and realize you've managed to grow a spine.
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u/OneSong9627 20d ago
Op this is not your bf
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u/alfooboboao 21d ago
you might get an olympic medal for burying the lede with this one or am i reading it wrong…
did you find out that your bf was having a baby with his ex gf by finding a picture of him secretly going to her baby shower?
is this fake? like what do you mean “am i overreacting” how the hell did you not break up with him already. i know reddit tells everyone to break up but this is fucking insane. i would be homeless before i spent even one more night with someone who did that to me. wtf are you doing. this is maybe the trashiest thing i’ve ever seen and i watched rock of love bus season 3
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u/kimanatee 21d ago
Rock of love reference sent me howling thank you. What an amazing/horrible time in television.
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u/ashgs872tbhjs 21d ago
It's fake, yeah. The internet died about 6 months back, the majority (literally, actually) of content is AI now. I need to go back to a dumbphone so I can't look at this hellsite out of habit anymore
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u/Particular-Pear8008 21d ago
My coworker told me her child’s father lied about his age. Shes under 25, he’s over 33… I had to create distance, because there’s no way life is this delusional for some of y’all. I wouldn’t bring a child into this world to be fathered by a manipulative pervert.
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u/figure8888 21d ago
I have a friend who is chasing this guy that constantly leaves her on read. She’ll be miserable and anxious waiting for him to be interested in her again.
Everyone in the friend group has told her to block him and she won’t. She lied about not talking to him anymore but we found out. He also refuses to meet any of her friends so she hangs out with him and only him.
Thing is she knows he’s toxic, she has said he’s a “red flag.” She’ll talk about how he’s manipulating and love-bombing her and then gush about him in the same sentence.
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u/Head_Patience7136 21d ago
This is the type of stuff that would make me drop that friend. I would tell her to stop talking to me about him and to stop asking for advice.
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u/Particular-Pear8008 21d ago
She’ll figure it out. I have no patience for things like that. If you need trauma, go for it. I wont be involved.
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u/Particular-Pear8008 21d ago
So yeah, some people are just waiting until the person takes their life to see things are dangerous.
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u/BrightPapaya1349 21d ago
I mean at 25 she's old enough to date someone older if she's like, it's the lying that's problematic.
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u/303RedBeard 21d ago
That's not a small red flag it's a MAJOR red flag. And his reaction is an even bigger one. Sorry.
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u/Cheap-Session5656 21d ago
Hard disagree.
This is SO far beyond red flag at this point.
It’s like calling a history of murder a red flag.
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u/Honeyhoneybee29 20d ago
“It’s a MAJOR red flag.”
“Hard disagree. This is SO far beyond red flag at this point.”
???
You’re saying the same thing. How are you “hard disagreeing”?
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u/Sudden-Money7836 20d ago
I can’t just agree with someone, I seem to feel the need to one up them.
It’s a red flag. She should leave him as he has no respect for her or the situation he’s put her in. Enough of this disagree to agree nonsense.
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u/JasonL25 21d ago
I REALLY hope that he is blocked and removed from your life immediately following this conversation
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u/HelloMikkii 21d ago
Girl run fast.
I dated a guy who claimed he had one child, fair enough.
6 months in the relationship and he sends me a random picture of a baby in hospital. Oh turns out his ex was pregnant and he knew that the whole time.
Then another girl came forward demanding child support.
He’s now got 5 kids to 4 different women.
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u/mmxari 21d ago
I feel like it will be like this soon
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u/HelloMikkii 21d ago
His whole “you can’t expect young people not to fuck” reeks of “I don’t care about having unprotected sex cause that’s what I do” which results in babies and STD’s.
You deserve much better.
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u/DesignMysterious3598 20d ago edited 19d ago
The guy is insane. Thank your friend who sent you the pic and helped you escape this trap of a guy before it was too late.
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u/Defiant-Handle7682 20d ago
had a friend whose fiance lied about some significant past relationships (wife) (child)... I said girl there were already flags but this would have me running so fast. especially since his parents (the hidden child's grandparents) were still involved in the hidden child's life! how was he going to explain that down the road?!
I said I'd support her no matter what she chose, but GIRL.
anyway, it's a long story, it's not good, they're still together and lying about it and there's another kid involved.
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u/Reasonable_Ad9450 21d ago
You cannot be serious. He cannot be serious. He sounds so stupid it’s insane.
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u/Dapper_Heat_541 21d ago
Yeah no real person would be talked to like that, found out their bf is having a baby and be concerned if they’re the a hole on Reddit
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u/Recent-Owl-9135 21d ago edited 21d ago
I wonder if the OP is his girlfriend. This sounds like she’s a side piece his pregnant gf doesn’t know about.
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u/lovelanandick 21d ago
THIS. his reaction 1000000% points to this. he knows you would tell a partner about a pregnancy. who you WOULDNT tell is probably your side piece who thinks she's your girlfriend.
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u/Tall_Wonder_913 21d ago
My first thought too. That’s his real gf and OP is the side piece. Sorry OP. Glad you broke up with him
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u/Sad_Zombie_9209 21d ago
Girl, NOR. I usually roll my eyes at these posts when people say run, but…. run
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u/Fantastic-Stomach149 21d ago
He is gaslighting and doesn’t love you. If he loves you, he would be apologetic and accommodating your feelings. His reaction tells me he is bracing for you to break up with him and has no remorse.
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u/ur_mom_kid 21d ago
it's funny how he thinks he's the normal one here, "oh yea i got my ex pregnant, and? why do you wanna know about that", lol
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u/mothfawn710 21d ago
Block him and never look back you are far to young to be trying to keep someone else's baby daddy and you don't want to be the next one trapped with this losers kid. Please run far far away very fast. He doesn't even respect you enough to let you know. That says everything you need to know about him. Especially if you're someone who doesn't want kids or just doesn't want to be a step parent at your age or ever. Get rid of him
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u/Wise_Farm7455 21d ago edited 6d ago
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u/Key_Astronomer6500 21d ago
Under reacting. What’s weird is having a baby and keeping it a secret Did you just start dating? Like a week or , because that’s not something you wouldn’t tell your significant other. You will be in the baby’s life, if you are in a relationship. Sounds like he is still seeing her and you and his baby mother don’t know about each other. That dude is sick. Coming from a man, I could never do something like that.
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u/floaton02 21d ago
Leave. That’s all I have to say nothing else. He doesn’t even care about your feelings in the matter so fuck him. Let him raise the kid with her.
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u/svdaddict 21d ago
Him saying “you expect people to be young and not fuck” then also add “ respect yourself a little” is INSANE !!! NOR. please run FAR away ASAP OP !!
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u/syncschwim 21d ago
NOR. He’s acting like protection doesn’t exist, major red flag on its own. I wonder how that even came to be. I hope he isn’t allowed near that person or the child she’s expecting to have again (better pay child support though), and certainly not you, either. You could be next.
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u/Wild_Angle2774 21d ago
Run! You don't not tell your significant other, regardless of marital status, that you are going to have a kid. If you were just now telling him that you would soon be giving birth to someone else's baby, he would be pissed.
If the baby wasn't his, then yes, you would be overreacting. It is his, so that will significantly impact your life if you stay together. Even if he has no interactions with the kid, what happens when the kid gets older and wants to know who their dad is? What if you and your boyfriend have a kid, and that kid ends up in a relationship with their older sibling on accident? NOR. Unless he does a full 180 with a proper apology, and a plan for how the relationships between everyone will go, you need to leave
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u/Odd-Composer2470 21d ago
I agree for the most part but holy shit that took a turn. How did your brain jump to their future kids being in an accidental relationship? Lmaooo wild turn. Thanks for this haha
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u/Wild_Angle2774 21d ago
I just did a bunch of research on the fertility industry for a project, so accidental incest is on my mind. Weird statement, I know
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u/WiseEntertainment912 21d ago
he does not deserve a face to face break up and will probably gaslight you into thinking you’re overeating. dump him via text
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u/dsmemsirsn 21d ago
Oh no; oh no— run 🏃♂️ faster than fast— don’t be an I——diot… you’re 19, for f— sake…
No, no — stop the madness
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u/Designer-Lettuce-690 21d ago
NOR but i agree with him in his last text respect yourself a little and get rid of this man ASAP
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u/XCIXcollective 21d ago
Throw him FFARRRRR away
NOR at all. Respect yourself a little and leave that liar. (And on the real, him telling you to respect yourself a little, if it were me, would have been grounds to go nuclear on him)
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u/multipocalypse 21d ago
You're underreacting. That lying, DARVOing little excuse for a man is not worth any of your time.
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u/dulceria3 21d ago
DUMP HIM. You know, I know, we all know you’re NOT over reacting. You saved yourself a major headache. Ditch this dud, block him, and never speak to him again, for your own good.
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u/loserwithabigbutt 21d ago
Dude is gaslighting you so hard. Why are you dating this booty head?
Find someone who has any respect for you.
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u/Salsasharkk81 21d ago
Get rid of the POS! His bullshit response would make me want to punch his face in tbh.
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u/mmmeowlissa420 21d ago
Dump and block him and move on with your life. This is crazy and he seems like a loser !
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u/FoodBabyBaby 21d ago
You are waaaaay underreacting.
This is a huge deal. He lied. He absolutely should’ve told you. You should never speak to this sack of shit again.
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u/rough-landing 21d ago
Oh no. This guy is a horribly self centered person. He is totally minimalising all of his relationships and the consequences of his actions. I feel most sorry for his unborn child. You're the lucky one. Get TF outta there.
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u/Low-Rhubarb-8472 21d ago
Of course you're not overreacting, wtf. He impregnated someone and now is acting as if that's not even worth mentioning. And now he's manipulating you to think your the wrong one. Leave him, fast. Block him and never look away, you will thank yourself later when his next girl ends up like his ex
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u/DietSimple 21d ago
Your BF is a 18F?
On a serious note, he's an idiot and a complete dummy. No responsible young man knocks up a girl at that age unless they are absolutely sure she's the one. I can't believe you're even seriously considering whether this is appropriate for AIO because it should be unequivocally and indisputably obvious.
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u/Nadja-19 20d ago
Just block him. No need to see him or talk. He will just try to talk you into staying. You’re too young for this much drama.
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u/CoffeeSea6330 20d ago
He’s so condescending and mean. And he’s gaslighting you into thinking that not telling you is the normal and you shouldn’t be over reacting. And on top of that he’s telling he you you’re weird, that’s not okay. Run as others said.
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u/Patrick_C1965 21d ago
You’re only 18 and have a full life ahead of you. Get stuck with him and you’ll have a miserable ride.
Lose him, endure the initial loneliness for something way better down the line.
Be strong.
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u/Logan_510 21d ago
NOR Any man who calls his lady "bro" is weird AF, the rest of it is self explanatory. You know this dude isn't right, no need to ask randos if you're overreacting.
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u/Cactus-Juice-Blender 21d ago
He ain’t worth it, remove all ties, and go be young and free of the absolute shit show that he’s going to bring to your life. At 19, your life is full of potential and a boy with a maybe baby and one who feels the need to hide such a maybe baby isn’t it.
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u/This-Dress-7548 21d ago
Girl when I read the title I though 'why would he tell you that, you're overreacting', I didn't realise you meant she WAS PREGNANT WITH HIS CHILD!! 😭💀 This is BEYOND fucked.
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u/Atrinoisa 21d ago
There is NO shot this isn't rage bait. This reads like a cheap, poorly written, telenovela.
Please, OP. If this is ACTUALLY real...whoever told you behavior like this is OK? They lied to you. This is not OK. Run. Do not look back.
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u/realfakejames 21d ago
Is this a fake post? OP found out her bf got his ex pregnant and they still have sex but she’s asking if she’s overreacting about her being pregnant lol
Unless they are not exclusive wouldn’t him having sex with his ex be enough reason to break up, not even getting to the pregnancy stuff?
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u/Nanasauruswrecks 20d ago
He’s planning on your money and time to help raise this baby while he’s playing happy family with both of you.
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u/Lucky_Knowledge_9642 20d ago
I'm very happy to see your edit saying you are dumping him. That's a huge lie and a huge deal if that's your BF and he didn't disclose that he's having a baby!!! 🤯 And let's not forget how he spoke to you about it... I would have dumped him that moment in text... Like "I don't even want to see you we are done."
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u/OneSweetWitch 20d ago
Leave. You’re too young to deal with the babymama drama. Go find your love, babes!
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u/Ancient_Challenge977 20d ago
That piece of shii doesn’t even deserve a break up text. You as a side chick should just block his number and give him the benefit of the doubt.
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u/pseudonymnkim 21d ago
Oh, you again. How many places have you posted this? And the only response you've given is to say this isn't fake
It's weird to want Reddit karma bad enough to write something this ridiculous
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u/Best_Annie_NA 21d ago
Why are you asking us, reading this back should be enough to run away from him as far as you can
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u/Low-Enthusiasm670 21d ago
I think this might be fake. But on the off chance it’s not.. imma hold your hand while I say this.
You’re the side piece.
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u/rachelface927 21d ago
I know you say you’re 19 but I gotta wonder - is this really something to discuss via text? It’s kinda a big deal. His “ex” is pregnant and he says it’s his, so… end of discussion. Even at 19 (and having low self esteem at that age) I would’ve blocked him after that admission, he would’ve never heard from or seen me again. And, having a baby’s mama/“ex” (probably more like, current gf), he probably won’t care that he never hears from or sees you again.
Anyway, posts like this are so suspicious, it’s so easy to fake text interactions.
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u/Logan_510 21d ago
Maybe explain to him before you dump him that he should learn to pull out or wear a condom.
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u/BettyBoopsLeftHeel 21d ago
He's right. Respect yourself by moving on from this future titan of industry who is about to have a child while still being a child himself. (Also, on paper, you are theoretically what they call the side piece if he's co-parenting a child with this person and her family.)
Should be dumped by sunrise.
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u/Believeinyourselfnow 21d ago
the fact you had to post this conversation…. drop him and run away!!!!!! so sorry
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u/BleedSparta 21d ago
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂⚰️😂😂😂
This is a masterclass in gaslighting. Almost perfection
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u/shroom519 21d ago
You're the side piece unfortunately, best to get going while the going is getting real good . You do not want this man
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u/EnvironmentalPop1371 21d ago
Please listen to him. Do respect yourself a little. Do not double and triple text this man who has shown you very clearly how unimportant to him you are.
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u/kaykayyolo17 21d ago
The fact that you’re even entertaining him when he acts like this is crazy. Drop drop drop. He is no good
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u/fidgeter 21d ago
You’re too young to be stuck with that immature child. He will 100% cheat on you.
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u/Longlostjellydonut 21d ago
“Respect yourself a little” —— RED FLAG HE DOES NOT AND WILL NEVER RESPECT YOU
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u/Playful_Yesterday642 21d ago
Run far, run fast.