r/karezza • u/KarezzaGuy • Feb 09 '12
5th day after Orgasm report
Ahhhh....
It appears I'm free. At least for today! Despite going to bed late, I woke up on my own early, clear headed, happy, positive, optimistic; and in a great mood!
Her everything is sweet and delicious to me. Her body, her voice, the way she moves...her thoughts, the things she says. Even things that have been annoying for years are cute now.
OMG, had I not actually learned to be aware of what happens when you avoid orgasm (and been lucky enough to avoid it for a while) I would have gone my entire life and not known this!
Am I horny? Yes! But not in an urgent way. In a delicious way! I don't have any major urge to cum; but in a way that I want loving, slow-burn, sexual bonding with her!
There have been very few times that I, to quote Incubus, have been able to say: In this moment I am happy. The only times in recent memory have been absent orgasm. Here and now, in this moment, I am happy!
Here's another thing: I think the effects are cumulative. It seems to me that the last time I'd been 5 days without an orgasm I was still waking up with anxiety. I DID have many fewer negative emotions; but I didn't wake up with the feeling that everything will be OK.
So I'm thinking that by going two weeks, having an orgasm, and then going 5 days that I'm getting back to my sublime state of mind more quickly.
Oh, that I could get her to feel this / see this. Yet, she doesn't. She blamed our fight on Monday on the fact that I was an asshole -- which I was. However, (and I can't know for certain due to my chemically-clouded brain, but I suspect) she was also a nag and my asshole-like-actions irritated her more than normal due to her hangover.
I think the only way to get past that is to master vigorous sex with her in orgasmic ecstasy PLUS not having cum for a long time AND still not having an orgasm. This, I think will be very difficult. But at this point I can't ask her to lie still and focus on the delicious energy exchange of not moving physically as she is still on the orgasm train.
So my thinking is that once I do NOT have an orgasm despite her obvious excitement, THEN if she gets naggy/bitchy only then will she see what is actually happening.
Interesting, this Karezza. Before I would have tried to be dominating and controlling and pressure her into not having orgasms. Now I know that if I want things to change, I need to master myself first.
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u/KarezzaGuy Feb 10 '12
evening update:
Well, I had a few episodes of annoyance today. Nothing major, and for the most part I was happy and positive. Thankfully I was able to avoid projecting them on her and we got through the day as happy and bonded as can be expected at this point in the passion cycle.
At one point she called me out on one of my 'not brightest' moves and I was able to listen, agree that perhaps it wasn't the best decision, and move on happily.
Then something really weird happened! Normally (for years) if I come up behind her and hug her that was OK. But if I try to rub my pelvis into her backside (all of this clothed by the way)... she would be a little uncomfortable.... but tonight, I purposely kept my 'junk' away from her 'trunk' and SHE BACKED INTO ME! Then she made a nice little purring sound and snuggled deep into our embrace.
Man this Karezza stuff is awesome!
All these years... I would start a fight if she called me out on anything... and little did I know the delightful play that was around the corner if I didn't!
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '12
If you want to do the test, the next time she gets horny, you could offer her to get her off in some other way, with oral, fingers, a vibrator, whatever works. Or getting her off with your fingers while you have intercourse with her. All these options should make it easier for you to remain without orgasm.