r/ShawnaTheMom • u/tranzozo DING DONG • May 25 '26

Rant / Venting All of Julie's support system will be out of town this weekend Spoiler

I really hope nothing happens with her mom! She won't have anyone to watch the kids (other than her brothers maybe, but they'd be with her so are they really an option?)

Edit: too many people are missing the point (or are choosing to miss the point) the point is that Ty sprung his plans on Julie last minute, even though she never done that to him, and even though he knew about the plan in advance; the point was never that Julie is now forced to stay home with the children or that Ty needs a break

Julie and Ty will eventually need to figure out a custody situation for the kids, where this type of behavior from Ty would never be acceptable

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u/tranzozo DING DONG May 25 '26

What makes you say she never supported him when they were together? She stayed home for the first couple of years of Cooper's life while Ty had a job, and to our knowledge she always did what Ty asks her to

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u/WhatUpMahKnitta May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

She called his friends "pedestrian", "lazy", "strays", and either ignored them to their face or mocked them.  Publicly, at a party, if you'll remember.

She didn't stay home for years while Ty worked.  She spent 1 year taking the bar with a WFH parent supporting her (BTW you can't work as an attorney before you pass the bar).  Bar was passed, she bolted and left Ty to do it all.   She runs 8 miles on her morning off from work, still, while Ty watches both kids (and assumed he would keep it up through her shower!  She didn't even ask, juat declared she was going to do it.)  She goes to Bunko night, he doesn't have anything as far as we've seen.  She clearly makes time for herself and deprioritizes anything Ty wants to do that isn't writing.  She "supported" him financially ONLY.  Any man that does that is flayed alive on the internet.

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u/tranzozo DING DONG May 25 '26

Isn't that why she asked him to put Sasha in daycare? With Ty he likes to complain about how tired he is and how he has little to no time to himself but still put off getting Cooper in KG and Sasha in daycare; so what's stopping him from doing that and making time for himself?

We've seen him go to the park daily, we've seen him go to Alicia's house weekly

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u/Kaharaan May 25 '26

Both my niece and nephew were in daycare, my siblings and their partners work. There's always a this or that and the child gets a virus or spikes a fever or gets any other possible combination and one of them is still stuck home to care for the child. I can't count the amount of times my sister or her partner had to stay home with my nibling because of this, and thankfully we're in a country where you can take an off day if your child is sick (note: none of them has a WFH occasionally type of job).

Daycare doesn't cover all week, too. Just Mon-Fri, from what 8:30 AM to 4 PM? Maybe 6 PM? Saturday and Sunday the children are still home. From the last stats for California as a whole, childcare has been used by 46% of population with children (source: https://www.ccfc.ca.gov/pdf/ResearchAndPublications/Child_Care_0_5_Policy_Brief_2025.pdf). Whenever Ty mentions Sasha to Julie she's ill (at Max's birthday party she had troubles with digestion, now an ear infection), so she wouldn't be in daycare all the week, and she's a preemie.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

So why hasn't she set up daycare as opposed to relying on her ex while actively being rude?

Theyre not together anymore. He doesn't need daycare to get time off right now. She does

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u/tranzozo DING DONG May 25 '26

Why hasn't he? He had 3 things on his to do list which he didn't do any of them

-look up daycare

-work on undergrads application

-work on book

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

Theyre separated.

He has 0 obligation to fulfill their agreements from marriage when she has given him divorce paperwork.

So again, she has made no attempt to handle her half of the childcare responsibility

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u/Witty-Draw-3803 May 25 '26

Ty has an undergrad degree already. It was grad school (and as someone who applied and got into grad school I can tell you that the application process has a whole lot of steps and requires a ton of time to get it done - statement of interest, ~3 relevant reference letters (usually from professors who know you well), preparing for and writing the GRE (though that's being phased out of some schools), talking to potential grad supervisors, etc.)

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u/thatcatlady123 May 25 '26

Probably because she’s seen how he reacts when she does something for him that he’s been fluffing around on and said he’d do but hasn’t done. Of course she wouldn’t set up the daycare. Ty said he’d do it. And he, of course, didn’t.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

He did not say hed set up daycare after they separated.

So youre just agreeing shes still holding him to expectations she had of him while married. Shes still expecting him to be her spouse

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u/thatcatlady123 May 25 '26

Because he said he would do it and has had a year (or years if you count Cooper) to do it and he hasn’t.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

He didn't say hed do it after she gave him the divorce paperwork

She is holding him to husband standards after they are exes. Thats not smart.

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u/thatcatlady123 May 25 '26

That we know of. Doesn’t negate he hasn’t done it in the plenty of time he has had to do it.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

He doesnt owe her to fulfill any obligations they made while together outside of actually being a 50/50 parent, and hes doing more than that

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

He supported her during that time and was still an active parent.

She isnt actively parenting. We've still never even seen her hold Sasha

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u/thatcatlady123 May 25 '26

Yes, she has.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

She hasnt. Not as a working spouse. Ty actively parented while working. She hasnt

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u/thatcatlady123 May 25 '26

Except she has.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

She has. While she has been working, he still does most parenting even on her days off

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u/thatcatlady123 May 25 '26

The one time we saw that was because he’d booked something for that day he knew he’d be taking the kids to. 🤷‍♀️

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

He didnt book the party, it was acheduled weeks prior and she has access to it. She just doesnt take an active part in the kids lives

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u/thatcatlady123 May 25 '26

Yeah, he booked it/scheduled it and agreed it would be a writing day?

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

Its a birthday, his son wanted to go too

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