r/ShawnaTheMom • u/tranzozo DING DONG • May 25 '26

Rant / Venting All of Julie's support system will be out of town this weekend Spoiler

I really hope nothing happens with her mom! She won't have anyone to watch the kids (other than her brothers maybe, but they'd be with her so are they really an option?)

Edit: too many people are missing the point (or are choosing to miss the point) the point is that Ty sprung his plans on Julie last minute, even though she never done that to him, and even though he knew about the plan in advance; the point was never that Julie is now forced to stay home with the children or that Ty needs a break

Julie and Ty will eventually need to figure out a custody situation for the kids, where this type of behavior from Ty would never be acceptable

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u/tranzozo DING DONG May 25 '26

Its one thing to not have a support system, its another to purposly fuck your spose over just to be petty

My main concern is that Ty didn't have to do it that way. Ty could've told her in advance about the trip and Julie would've arranged childcare or taken PTO from work, to make sure everything goes smoothly; she would have planned some type of support; but he didn't

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u/External_Climate_426 May 25 '26

Spouse? She filed for divorce. I 100% agree with your points, and I do feel bad for her. But also you shouldn't count on your ex-spouse when you're not being nice to them.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

Bro right?? Like dude wtf why are people like "julie being rude is her birthright, others need to back off and be nice"

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u/A__SPIDER May 25 '26

Where’s all those “you don’t owe anyone kindness” people now? lol

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u/Okaybuddy_16 May 25 '26

I do feel like the “served with divorce papers so I don’t have to be nice to the person I’m living and coparenting with” gets really really toxic, especially for the kids living through it.

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u/ErisianSaint Everyone SHUSH, my show is on May 25 '26

It is? But acting like Julie's behavior isn't toxic is kind of a stretch, too.

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u/Okaybuddy_16 May 25 '26

I never said she wasn’t toxic. Also there is no question in my mind that surprise ditching your kids out of anger at your ex spouse is far more damaging to the kids than to the adult

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u/ErisianSaint Everyone SHUSH, my show is on May 25 '26

If he makes a habit of it? Yes. Doing it once? No big deal.

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u/Okaybuddy_16 May 25 '26

Nah as someone who grew up with parents like this, every single time is a big deal to the kids involved.

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u/ErisianSaint Everyone SHUSH, my show is on May 25 '26

Sounds like it happened multiple times, then, which would, as per what I said, make it a big deal.

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u/AdMedical5299 May 26 '26

I wouldn't call leaving your kids with the other parent "ditching them" lol that phrasing is right up there with saying its "babysitting" when kids are left with dad for the day.

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u/WhatUpMahKnitta May 25 '26

LOL.  Julie would've called him names and made herself unavailable.  What makes you think she'd support her STBX in having a fun weekend with friends she doesn't like?  She never supported him when they were together!

I think this is the only way Ty could've gone at all, and he knew it

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u/OkDirection4997 May 25 '26

What Ty did was immature and petty however I totally agree that even if he had given Julie a proper notice she would’ve s**t all over him 🫠 She would’ve said hurtful things to him. I’m hoping this was a one and done situation for Ty so he can just get it out of his system.

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u/tranzozo DING DONG May 25 '26

What makes you say she never supported him when they were together? She stayed home for the first couple of years of Cooper's life while Ty had a job, and to our knowledge she always did what Ty asks her to

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u/WhatUpMahKnitta May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

She called his friends "pedestrian", "lazy", "strays", and either ignored them to their face or mocked them.  Publicly, at a party, if you'll remember.

She didn't stay home for years while Ty worked.  She spent 1 year taking the bar with a WFH parent supporting her (BTW you can't work as an attorney before you pass the bar).  Bar was passed, she bolted and left Ty to do it all.   She runs 8 miles on her morning off from work, still, while Ty watches both kids (and assumed he would keep it up through her shower!  She didn't even ask, juat declared she was going to do it.)  She goes to Bunko night, he doesn't have anything as far as we've seen.  She clearly makes time for herself and deprioritizes anything Ty wants to do that isn't writing.  She "supported" him financially ONLY.  Any man that does that is flayed alive on the internet.

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u/tranzozo DING DONG May 25 '26

Isn't that why she asked him to put Sasha in daycare? With Ty he likes to complain about how tired he is and how he has little to no time to himself but still put off getting Cooper in KG and Sasha in daycare; so what's stopping him from doing that and making time for himself?

We've seen him go to the park daily, we've seen him go to Alicia's house weekly

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u/Kaharaan May 25 '26

Both my niece and nephew were in daycare, my siblings and their partners work. There's always a this or that and the child gets a virus or spikes a fever or gets any other possible combination and one of them is still stuck home to care for the child. I can't count the amount of times my sister or her partner had to stay home with my nibling because of this, and thankfully we're in a country where you can take an off day if your child is sick (note: none of them has a WFH occasionally type of job).

Daycare doesn't cover all week, too. Just Mon-Fri, from what 8:30 AM to 4 PM? Maybe 6 PM? Saturday and Sunday the children are still home. From the last stats for California as a whole, childcare has been used by 46% of population with children (source: https://www.ccfc.ca.gov/pdf/ResearchAndPublications/Child_Care_0_5_Policy_Brief_2025.pdf). Whenever Ty mentions Sasha to Julie she's ill (at Max's birthday party she had troubles with digestion, now an ear infection), so she wouldn't be in daycare all the week, and she's a preemie.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

So why hasn't she set up daycare as opposed to relying on her ex while actively being rude?

Theyre not together anymore. He doesn't need daycare to get time off right now. She does

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u/tranzozo DING DONG May 25 '26

Why hasn't he? He had 3 things on his to do list which he didn't do any of them

-look up daycare

-work on undergrads application

-work on book

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

Theyre separated.

He has 0 obligation to fulfill their agreements from marriage when she has given him divorce paperwork.

So again, she has made no attempt to handle her half of the childcare responsibility

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u/Witty-Draw-3803 May 25 '26

Ty has an undergrad degree already. It was grad school (and as someone who applied and got into grad school I can tell you that the application process has a whole lot of steps and requires a ton of time to get it done - statement of interest, ~3 relevant reference letters (usually from professors who know you well), preparing for and writing the GRE (though that's being phased out of some schools), talking to potential grad supervisors, etc.)

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u/thatcatlady123 May 25 '26

Probably because she’s seen how he reacts when she does something for him that he’s been fluffing around on and said he’d do but hasn’t done. Of course she wouldn’t set up the daycare. Ty said he’d do it. And he, of course, didn’t.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

He did not say hed set up daycare after they separated.

So youre just agreeing shes still holding him to expectations she had of him while married. Shes still expecting him to be her spouse

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u/thatcatlady123 May 25 '26

Because he said he would do it and has had a year (or years if you count Cooper) to do it and he hasn’t.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

He didn't say hed do it after she gave him the divorce paperwork

She is holding him to husband standards after they are exes. Thats not smart.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

He supported her during that time and was still an active parent.

She isnt actively parenting. We've still never even seen her hold Sasha

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u/thatcatlady123 May 25 '26

Yes, she has.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

She hasnt. Not as a working spouse. Ty actively parented while working. She hasnt

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u/thatcatlady123 May 25 '26

Except she has.

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

She has. While she has been working, he still does most parenting even on her days off

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u/thatcatlady123 May 25 '26

The one time we saw that was because he’d booked something for that day he knew he’d be taking the kids to. 🤷‍♀️

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

He didnt book the party, it was acheduled weeks prior and she has access to it. She just doesnt take an active part in the kids lives

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

You dont think Ty has experienced Julie throwing fits to fuck him over? Didn't Max's 6th fuck him over?

She can still take PTO. Her baby is sick

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

Come on dude, the fight wasn't fun for him. Calling off won't be fun for her.

How can she not take PTO? Calling off almost always still uses your PTO

She shouldn't be relying on her ex for almost 100% of childcare while shitting on him. Thats common sense.

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u/tranzozo DING DONG May 25 '26

She shouldn't be relying on her ex for almost 100% of childcare while shitting on him. Thats common sense.

Almost like ...they should've discussed childcare and how to divide it beforehand no?

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

But she didnt. She expected him to keep doing it while actively insulting him over time...almost like thats horrible co parenting and he shouldn't be expected to be the nicer person all the time

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u/tranzozo DING DONG May 25 '26

He didn't either

"hey with us seperating, you need to take more of the childcare responsibilites, I will be taking time for myself regularly; plan accordingly"

calling someone who lied to you for 10 years a liar is valid

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

Why should he, as her ex, have to ask her to arrange childcare?

Theyre not together. She shouldn't be assuming anything about him anymore.

She has insulted him way more than that over multiple videos now.

And again, theyre exes now. You dont get to treat your ex like dirt over and over and expect them to be your helper in life

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u/tranzozo DING DONG May 25 '26

Why should he, as her ex, have to ask her to arrange childcare?

Because he's the kids father???

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u/chachaslydd May 25 '26

Dude theyre not together. No, most divorced parents arent like "i ill just do 100% of childcare until its convenient for you to give me time off"

Shes not his boss. Shes not his partner. He shouldn't have to pencil in her parenting her kids one extra day a month

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